EFT Spotlight – Affirmations Aren’t Working For Me

EFT Tapping is such a powerful modality and tool to have in your toolbox, I am going to share with you areas and ways you can start to use EFT Tapping in your life.

In Today’s episode of EFT Spotlight – Affirmations aren’t working for me.  I am going to share with you an experience one of my clients has using affirmations.

(Details have been changed to protect the privacy of my client)

Louise had always been interested in new age teachings, followed a lot of the popular spiritual teachers such as Gabby Bernstein, Wayne Dyer and Louise Hay.
 
She would follow their teachings to a T but felt she just wasn’t experiencing the results she was seeing in others who followed the same teachings.  She would ask herself “what is wrong with me?”  “Why am I not receiving what I am asking for?”.
 
This is a very familiar experience that I see in many of my clients, they feel like they are doing the right thing, following all the “teachings” but been left disappointed and with a lower self-worth than when they started.
 
Can you detect where the problem might be?
affirmations not working

Louise would use affirmations each and every day religiously.  She would even stand in front of the mirror, adding mirror work to power up her affirmations.  She thought to herself “this has got to work, right?”

Again her affirmations did not work, she was not noticing any changes in her life.  It all stayed the same and even a little worse because she was having those thoughts of “there must be something wrong with me, maybe I am not worthy”.

So on the surface Louise is doing all the right things, saying her affirmations religiously, powering them up with mirror work. Can you see what is missing?

If you said deep inner work and healing, then you are spot on.  ⭐Gold Star for You!⭐ 

A lot of the teachings especially in Law of Attraction and Manifestation are missing this very important and potent step.  The steps tend to work on the surface and fit in with what Louise was feeling “on the surface I am doing all the right things”.  As a certified law of attraction coach myself I know this all too well and was able to see this vital step was missing in the process.

So if affirmations “don’t work” what is the point?

I love affirmations and I use them myself but there is an important step that I feel again is missing in this very powerful exercise, that is having an understanding of ‘what is the true affirmation’.

I invite you to come along with me as I take Louise through an EFT Tapping session to uncover her true affirmation.

EFT Tapping Session with Louise.

Nicole: Louise tell me what is one of the affirmations you have been using that you feel isn’t working.

Louise: The affirmation I mainly use is “I am rich and abundant”.

Nicole: Great!  Now I am going to ask you to tune in as I get you to say this affirmation out loud and notice as you finish the affirmation, what is the first thing you hear or think?

Louise: Okay. “I am rich and abundant”, oh wow it was “no you are not”.

Nicole: Yes. You have just uncovered your true affirmation and it says “you are not rich and abundant”.  Can you see why your affirmation has felt like it isn’t working?

Louise: I absolutely can.  That is so weird, but also explains so much.  When I thought I was affirming I am rich and abundant I was actually affirming the opposite.

Nicole: Yes exactly.  I know this feels frustrating but it is also powerful to unearth what your true affirmation actually is and we call that a “tailender”.  It is what sits at the end of your affirmation as what you truly believe.

Nicole: Would you like to change this true belief and believe you can be rich and abundant?

Louise: Yes please!

Nicole: Great!  I am going to take you through a quick meditation to ground your energy and then we will get into your energy healing.

Louise: Thank you. 

Nicole: Louise are you ready?

Louise: Yes I am so ready to heal and release this unhelpful belief.

Nicole: Great!  Tapping on the side of your hand.

Eventhough I have this affirmation that isn’t working, I accept myself and how I feel.
Eventhough I have this affirmation that isn’t working, I accept myself and how I feel.
Eventhough I have this affirmation that isn’t working, I accept myself and how I feel.
 
Tapping Round 1:
 
I am rich and abundant
No you are not
I am rich and abundant
No you are not
I am rich and abundant
No you are not
I am rich and abundant
No you are not
 
A check in with Louise revealed her tailender had lightened up from a strong 10/10 to 5/10
 
Tapping Round 2:
 
I am rich and abundant
No you are not
I am rich and abundant
No you are not
I am rich and abundant
No you are not
I am rich and abundant
No you are not
 
A check in with Louise further revealed the potency of her tailender had dropped from 5/10 to 3/10.
 
Tapping Round 3:
 
I am rich and abundant
No you are not
I am rich and abundant
No you are not
I am rich and abundant
No you are not
I am rich and abundant
No you are not
 
A check in with Louise revealed the tailender was no longer existing.
 
I then took her through a further EFT Tapping round to tap in the affirmation she wanted to be true and believe wholeheartedly.
 
Tapping Round 4:
 
I am rich and abundant
I am rich and abundant
I am rich and abundant
I am rich and abundant
I am rich and abundant
I am rich and abundant
I am rich and abundant
I am rich and abundant
 
A final check in with Louise revealed in mind and body she now believed this affirmation.  So when she said “I am rich and abundant” she actually believed it with all of her.
 
This shows that it isn’t that affirmations don’t work and you shouldn’t use them, there is just another very important step that needs to be included. 
 
Louise could of continued on saying this affirmation over and over again till she was blue in the face and nothing would change.  The only thing that would of been achieved in that way is her feeling bad about herself and that she wasn’t worthy of the amazing divine abundance that is available to each and every one of us.
 
I have been a Certified Clinical EFT Practitioner for 4 years now and the results still amaze me every time.
 
I trust sharing the EFT Spotlight with you has helped you to start to see the amazing benefits of adding EFT Tapping to your tool box.
 
Comment below and share with me an affirmation you have been using and what is the tailender.

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Nicole Ivens is an Intuitive Counsellor, Angel Intuitive, Law of Attraction Trainer, Certified Clinical EFT Practitioner.

Nicole is a Highly Sensitive Soul, Empath, and quietly spoken Introvert (INFJ).

Nicole is passionate about providing a safe space for her clients to embark on their healing journey.

She is well known for empowering her clients to take up space and know it is their time to thrive.

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I am a Freelance Writer in the Holistic Wellness Space.  I share articles to support you in Mind, Body & Soul.  Covering topics such as: Self-care, energy healing, intuitive practices and emotional wellbeing.

I also work with clients privately online utilising EFT Tapping to support them on their healing journey.

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