Are You Ready to Heal?

Are you ready to heal?

It is an important question to ask yourself before you embark on any healing journey.  It may feel counterintuitive, you are here, so you must be ready, right?

Well no not necessarily, there is a difference between thinking you should do some healing work and truely been ready on a holistic level.

"A Holistic level means in mind, body and spirit"

This is a question I ask all of my private clients, both in our initial chat together but also continually throughout the process in what I call reflection sessions.

It is a great opportunity to tune in to your body and ask am I ready to work on this today, and if you are not, that is okay.  It doesn’t mean you will never be ready, you are just not ready today.

What are some of the signs and symptoms of being ready to heal?

Let’s have a look at what signs or symptoms you may be noticing that are alerting you to the fact that you may becoming ready to embark on your healing journey.

  • You have just had enough


You are feeling at your absolute limit and you are noticing thoughts and words of “enough is enough”.  As a beautiful deeply empathic woman, it takes a bit to get you here, so this is a big neon sign to say it is time.

  • You are noticing physical symptoms that can’t be explained by traditional medicine.


This is your body giving you a big flashing sign that says “hey I can’t continue to do this anymore, I need help, I need your attention”.

  • There are behaviours you have noticed within yourself that you want to change


This is an intial notification that you are ready for change, healing and growth.

  • Past memories are starting to surface from events you felt you had dealt with


This is a very common sign and I hear it from many of my private clients, they say “oh I dealt with that”.  My response is always then why is it surfacing right now?  It is an indication that the event has not 100% been healed or processed.

  • Things and people you used to be able to tolerate, you no longer can


When people, things and external behaviours are no longer tolerable for you, this is a sign that you are ready to heal and elevate your energy.

  • What you are tolerating whether that is internally or externally feels harder than what doing the deep healing work feels like to you


You come to a place where the fear you may of felt about turning inside and stopping long enough to feel is no longer strong enough to keep you in certain circumstances and environments.

  • Spending all of your time and energy on others is no longer sustainable for you or something you want to continue to do


Even the most caring of people have a breaking point and if you have come to yours and you are starting to experience resentment towards those you care for. 

It is a big neon sign and symptom of doing too much externally for too long.  Your internal world is calling out for your attention.

a woman contemplating if she is feeling ready to heal

They are just some of the signs and symptoms you may have noticed within yourself and your individual experience, that are telling you that you are ready to heal.  There are many more but these are just a few of the common ones.

What is also important to understand is:

"It is okay if you don't feel ready to heal or if you just don't want to do it"

The fact that you are reading this article, I am going to assume that you have received some guidance that it might just be your time.

Let me share with you my own personal experience about how I knew and continue to know it is time for some healing, but also from those around me as well.

I have always been a very internal person, always being very introspective.  Asking myself the big, deep questions but also asking those questions of others.  Not surprising that I am a Counsellor. 😁 

I go through times where I am all good, just going about my days with no real call for deep healing or introspection.  But then a time comes where my subconscious mind lets me know, okay Nicole it is time.

For me this shows up as past memories, usually at the most inopportune time, like in line at Coles. 😲 

But I know now after many many years of both professional and personal healing that I need to listen and provide time and space for the message to flow through both my body and my conscious mind.

My body also shares with me when it is time, especially if she has been carrying high levels of stress for too long.  My body starts to show me through inflammation, strange injuries and physical symptoms.

Like just yesterday, I had a terrible headache bordering on a migraine and then a painful stomach.  My subsconsicous mind has been throwing alot of old memories from a difficult time in my life over 15 years ago and I’ll be honest I haven’t taken the time and space to listen.

So my body did it for me, throwing out a massive roadblock to continuing to push through and telling me to STOP.

We each will have that one thing that stops us in our tracks, for me it is a migraine or severe stomach pain.

What is that for you?

Now let’s look at what it looks like if you are not feeling ready to heal or maybe you just don’t want to do it.

I have a few people in my family that just don’t want to do it, for one reason or another.

I will use my husband as an example, him and I, we are like chalk and cheese.  You probably couldn’t get two people more opposite, but it just works.  We are each others Yin/Yang.

So for him, being introspective and turning inside is not something he has ever wanted to do.  He is a very on the surface type of guy, he even says “I have placed a slab of concrete in there, it is nice and safe” 😉 

As a Counsellor and Healer do I agree with that, well no, but it is always his choice.  Do I see some healing anyway, yes of course, there has definitely been some growth within him over the past 28 years.

One of my daughters and my mum are the same, theirs is a little different as it comes more from fear than not wanting to.  They have a deep fear of what it will uncover, so they prefer to stay on the surface as well.

Why am I sharing this with you?  For you to understand that in each and every moment you have a choice. 

You get to choose whether you want to heal or whether you don’t, there is no judgement either way.

Let me ask you where are you sitting on the Healing Readiness Scale?

1-3  – I am pretty happy on the surface

4-6 – I am noticing some annoying things and could possibly be ready for some inner work

6-10 – I am feeling ready to make some time and space in my life to turn inward and embark on my healing journey

Just a question for you to answer for yourself, always good to know where you are at.


I trust this article has served you.

How you can work with me privately:

“I am a Holistic Counsellor and Accredited & Certified Clinical EFT Practitioner based in Pimpama, Gold Coast, Australia.

My approach is to bridge traditional and alternative therapies, my experience has shown me that being a bridge between the two worlds and combining talk therapy with EFT Tapping is very effective.

You don’t have to wait till all the wheels fall off to ask for help, I have noticed with some of my clients that this is where they have to get to before they will reach out.

My role is to provide a safe space for you to express how you are feeling, knowing I will hear you; I will understand you and I will validate how you are feeling.

I help you to find what is causing you to feel the way you do and using EFT to help heal the underlying cause.”

Sessions available in person on the Gold Coast, Queensland, Australia and online worldwide.

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Your guide: Nicole Ivens

Hi! I'm Nicole.

I am a Professional Counsellor & Certified Clinical EFT Practitioner and Spiritual Teacher.  I share articles to support you in Mind, Body & Soul.  Covering topics such as: Spirituality, Healing & Empowerment.

I also work with clients privately online utilising EFT Tapping to support them on their healing journey.

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