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I Just Can't Meditate

Have You Ever Said “I Just Can’t Meditate”?

I Just Can’t Meditate

Have you said that to yourself or others?

Yes you!  Don’t worry I’ve got your back, so many of my clients have said this to me when I set them homework of meditating every day.  The look of fear on their face is priceless like I have asked them to give me their first born child.  Don’t worry I will never ask for your first born child, I have two teenagers and my hands are already full with as much teenage attitude as I can take.

You lay down, close your eyes and all of a sudden you are thinking about the washing  you haven’t done or the ironing piling up on the back of the couch and hang on a second did I leave the stove on, oh no it’s okay I haven’t cooked dinner yet.  Oh man I really should be cooking dinner, instead of lying here trying to meditate, oh geez I am so bad at this meditating thing, I can’t even stop thinking.   Sound familiar?

I just can't meditate

I get it and trust me I have been there so worried I was bad at meditating because I just can’t stop thinking and drive myself crazy trying to stop my thoughts and then I think about stopping my thoughts, a vicious cycle right?

It always reminds me of the saying “What You Resist Persists”, so resisting your thoughts or thinking actually causes you to think more.  Very unhelpful when you are trying to have a nice quiet moment to yourself, very rare I know.  So, what is the answer?

I have some great refreshing news for you, stopping your thoughts is very unrealistic, you have over 100,000 thoughts every day so no matter how hard you try you can’t stop them all.  Instead of trying to stop them I want you to become an observer of your thoughts, where is your focus right now?  What area of your life are your thoughts focusing in on?

That’s a big relief isn’t it, you get to just pay attention to what your thoughts are instead of trying to stop them.  I always get my clients to look at it like a courtroom, you are the judge and there is a prosecutor and a defense attorney.  You hear each side out and then  you get to decide (judge) what you keep and what you toss out and this allows you great information to what is going on in  your life and what affect your thoughts are having on your day-to-day life.

I just can't meditate

 

The other thing I like to share with my clients is meditation comes in all shapes and sizes, its not a one size fits all.  What works for someone else may not work for you, you need to do what feels right to you and something you can fit into your schedule.  I want you to think about just for a moment of an activity where you just completely lose yourself, time gets away from you and before you know it, the suns going down and the kids are yelling for dinner.

This is also a form of meditation because you are focusing on the task at hand, losing yourself in the moment and feeling a sense of joy and fulfillment.  It’s bringing you out of the external world into your internal world and giving you a break from all the stress and overwhelm that life bestows upon you sometimes.

Follow after me – “I can meditate in my own way and in my own time”

Would you like to feel supported with your meditation?  I work with clients 1-1 to support you in learning how to meditate and make it a part of your regular routine.  www.nicoleivens.com/services

 

Meditation

The Benefits of Meditation

Meditation is a bit of a buzz word right now, isn’t it?

So, like the old saying goes if you can’t beat them, join them.  Let’s dive in and look at what meditation is and the benefits you can expect to experience with a regular practice of meditation.

Meditation is having an inner focus and a thought awareness to achieve a state of relaxation and a calm mind.  Sounds pretty good to me, I am sure we can all do with a technique to allow us to have a calm mind.  Although I may be a little biased after all my business is “Calm Your Mind Wellness”.

I’ll start by sharing with you my own personal experience of meditation, as you all may know, I never share anything with you that I haven’t tried myself.

When I first started meditating I felt like I wasn’t very good at it, as my thoughts just kept on coming.  I said things like “I am just not good at this meditating thing” and “I am never going to be able to stop my thoughts”.  I just kept at it and my thoughts kept coming and it wasn’t until I learned that stopping my thoughts wasn’t actually the goal anyway.  Hallelujah!

The release of pressure of my shoulders when I realised this was amazing, now not stopping my thoughts, that I can do.   So if I am not stopping my thoughts what am I doing, I hear you ask?  Well, all you need to do is just let them be, allow them to come and allow them to go.

Thoughts like feelings, just want to be heard in a sense.  Let them come and let them go, the letting go is the important part as at times we tend to hold onto a thought like it is gospel.  I thought it so it must be true, right?  Not necessarily, our thoughts are coming from past experiences, so each person can have a completely different thought over the same situation.

What I want you to start to do is become an observer of your thoughts, a bit like a judge in a courtroom.  You have the prosecutor and the defence attorney, fighting it out and the judge just sits back and observes.  That is your job now, observe your thoughts and decide whether they have merit or not.

5-minute meditation practice

 

Step 1 – Find a quiet place

Step 2 – Sit or lay down

Step 3 – Start 5 minute timer

Step 4 – Close your eyes

Step 5 – Start concentrating on your breath – nice deep breaths

Step 6 – Observe your thoughts

Step 7 – Let your thoughts come and go

Step 8 – Open your eyes and feel refreshed

 

Over time you will be able to increase your time, 5 minutes is a great place to start.  “The Insight Timer App” is perfect for your meditation, it plays music and will sound a chime when your time is up.

The Benefits of Meditation

 

 

  • Relief from stress and anxiety
  • Decreased blood pressure and hypertension
  • Lower cholesterol levels
  • More efficient oxygen use by the body
  • Increased production of the anti-aging hormone DHEA
  • Restful Sleep
  • Feel more grounded
  • Connected to your higher self
  • Increase your intutition
  • Feel more calm and relaxed

As you can see there are so many benefits to meditation and for me the one that stands out the most is just that feeling of overall calm, allows me to deal with situations in my life easily and effortlessly.

Give it a try and let me know what your favourite benefit is.

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