Give Yourself Permission to Feel What You Feel
Welcome back to Season 2 of the Nurtured Empath Podcast
So, here we are back with season two and you know thinking about what the first episode would be for season two.
What really came through to me was what I have been seeing through client sessions in the last few months, it’s really been about not been able to feel what you feel.
What I have been noticing is that a lot of people will excuse how they are feeling because, especially with what we have been experiencing over the last year 2020 they feel like there are other people out there that are worse off.
And you know what it really doesn’t matter what other people are going through. This is about you and how you are feeling and about what you are experiencing.
Now you pushing down and not expressing or processing how it is that you are feeling and what it is that you are experiencing is not helping anybody.
Not helping you and not helping the other people you’re seeing that you are feeling are going through worse things than you are.
You not expressing your own feelings does nothing for them, it’s not going to help them on their path at all. All it’s going to do is to cause you to feel worse because you’re not going to be expressing or processing how you are feeling.
You’re going to be putting on that mask like we pretend to do to say you know what everything is okay, I am fine. That is obviously a big statement that empaths tend to use and females especially tend to use, we use that statement of I’m fine.
I think I have mentioned this before in the previous season of this podcast. I am fine is a statement that is banned in my household because it’s not a true statement.
When someone says they are fine, majority of the time they are not fine, they are just saying I don’t want to burden you with this, so I am going to say that I am fine.
All you’re saying is I can’t feel what I feel because the person over there has got it worse than I do. All that is doing is you’re pushing it down and not processing, and what not processing does is that it fills you up on the inside. And if you are filled up in the inside then it reduces your capacity to help other people.
So, if you are seeing someone else whether they’re close to you or just someone you know going through a tough time, and you feel that what your experience is, is less compared to what they’re going through.
While you not processing what’s going on for you that means you are minimising your capacity to help them with whatever they’re going through.
So, why would you want to do that? Why would you want to look at their situation? That is really bad so, what I’m going through that is nothing I’m not going to deal with it. All you are doing is just reducing that space that you have within you to help them with whatever they are going through.
I know for me I wouldn’t want to do that, in my role obviously as a counsellor I have to have the capacity to help my clients.
It’s important that I always deal with my stuff and I can tell you the things I hear from my clients are one hundred times worse than what I go through.
But it doesn’t minimise what I experience, I need to be processing and expressing that for myself, so then I still have that capacity to help them and that is the same for you.
Make sure you’re always expressing your own feelings, giving yourself permission to feel.
So, then you have that space to help other people that are going through some tough times.
I hope that helps you understand the importance of giving yourself the permission to feel.
So, it’s really important for you to start to know it’s okay to feel what you feel. It’s okay to express what you feel. It’s okay to process what you feel.
“Give Yourself Permission To Feel”
Blocking that and pretending to feel okay, is not helping you to grow it’s stunting your growth, your spiritual growth.
It’s important for you to give yourself the permission to feel.
That is really the message I wanted to get across in the first episode of season two.
“It is okay to feel”
I really want you to go ahead and be doing that, to start to process or to express what you feel.
Journaling is a great way to do that, it’s like a brain dump, open the page and really writing about truly how you are feeling.
What’s been happening? Who is part of the story? What’s the environment it’s happening in?
Really writing all of it out, getting it out of your brain, it’s going to help you to express and process it. To see the truth of what is really going on.
Because when we leave things up in our mind, they tend to gain momentum and the story can have things added into it that aren’t necessarily true.
This will really help you to express, process and really move through whatever it is you have been experiencing.
That is my tip for you today to really start to understand what is you are feeling. I am going to leave you with a question:
“When was the last time you really gave yourself the permission to feel what you feel?”
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