How to step out of your comfort zone

A comfort zone is just like a used baby blankie, its warm and familiar but also a little worse for wear.

You know where you are right now isn’t where you want to stay, and the results you are seeing in your life is far from what you want.

However stepping outside of your comfort zone riddles you with fear and panic…

One part of you really wants to move forward, and build a better life for yourself and your family.

Another part is telling you – no, no lets just stay here, its safe here, we can’t get hurt here.  Sound familiar?

Whilst your comfort zone is warm and cozy and definitely safe and what you are used to, it isn’t going to bring you closer to your dream life. 

Now when I talk about a dream life, its not the whole idea of a big boat, new house, new car, millions of dollars – although that would be nice. 

I am talking about that feeling of peace and calm and true love of yourself and where you are in your life.

For me that feeling of true inner calm and peace is worth so much more than any amount of money or material item I could acquire. 

But I knew to find that I had to wade through some mud to get there, and of course that involved stepping way outside of my comfort zone.

When you think about stepping outside of your comfort zone, memes may come to mind, like climbing a big mountain, starting a new endeavour or going on a big adventure. 

There is something so much bigger than any of those ideas and that is looking inside and starting to find your way through the mud just like a lotus flower.

The Lotus Flower is a sign of detachment, a true sign of letting go of what is no longer serving you.

Comfort zone

A lotus flower grows through the mud and still blossoms with beautiful flowers, as it grows water beads off the petals, letting go of what it no longer needs.

I was talking to my 16 year old daughter the other day about the importance of letting go and not holding onto the old her.  

Recently she has been weaning off one of her epilepsy medications and with that, she has started to feel different.

She is experiencing more energy, a clearer mind and has become very talkative. 

Her first response was to want to feel like she did before as that is what she was used to, that was her comfort zone.

Even though to an outsider that wouldn’t make any sense, why wouldn’t she want more energy, a clearer mind and to feel happier. 

Well like the baby blankie that is a little worse for wear, it is familiar even though its not necessarily in her best interests.

So as you can see our comfort zones are not always good for us, at one time or another maybe they were, but a time comes where it is time to let go, embrace the fear and move forward.

Are you ready to step outside of your comfort zone?

Ways to step out of your comfort zone:

  1. Gain understanding of your comfort zone and its purpose
  2. What do you feel in your body when you think about stepping outside of your comfort zone
  3. Use EFT Tapping on this feeling and emotion
  4. Give yourself time to feel safe before stepping out of your comfort zone

There is this teaching within the wellness industry that says “feel the fear and do it anyway”, but if you are carrying any trauma or stored survival stress within your body this isn’t so simple for you.

It is important for your body to feel safe first before stepping out into the unknown, so doing the steps above will help you to do it in a gentle, slow and safe way.

I want you to know that taking it slow is completely okay and I even encourage you to take it easy.

It is so much easier to step out of your comfort zone when you feel safe and ready and whilst others may say “that may never happen”…

Doing it in this way is not you doing nothing and waiting till you feel safe and ready, you are doing the inner work that will bring you to a time and space where your body feels safe and ready.

So pull out that journal and get to work, give yourself the time and space to learn about your comfort zone and feel into what your body is experiencing.

How you can work with me privately:

“I am a Holistic Counsellor and Accredited & Certified Clinical EFT Practitioner based in Pimpama, Gold Coast, Australia.

My approach is to bridge traditional and alternative therapies, my experience has shown me that being a bridge between the two worlds and combining talk therapy with EFT Tapping is very effective.

You don’t have to wait till all the wheels fall off to ask for help, I have noticed with some of my clients that this is where they have to get to before they will reach out.

My role is to provide a safe space for you to express how you are feeling, knowing I will hear you; I will understand you and I will validate how you are feeling.

I help you to find what is causing you to feel the way you do and using EFT to help heal the underlying cause.”

Sessions available in person on the Gold Coast, Queensland, Australia and online worldwide.

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Your guide: Nicole Ivens

Hi! I'm Nicole.

I am a Professional Counsellor & Certified Clinical EFT Practitioner and Spiritual Teacher.  I share articles to support you in Mind, Body & Soul.  Covering topics such as: Spirituality, Healing & Empowerment.

I also work with clients privately online utilising EFT Tapping to support them on their healing journey.

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