In planning this week’s blog I asked my mum what she thought would be a good title for a blog about decision making and yes her response was:
“I don’t know, I just can’t decide”
Without even realising it she had made a decision about the title of this week’s blog. This actually happens a lot we make decisions without even realising it and as we saw here not making a decision, is making a decision.
So what is the inability to make a decision all about, where does it stem from. I want you to think about a time where you were able to make a decision quite easily compared to a time where you found decision making difficult, what was the difference?
Research shows that self-confidence, self-esteem and past experiences has a lot to do with your current ability to make decisions, especially those decisions that will make a significant change to your life or the life of your loved ones.
Decision making is a skill and one that can be built upon, just because you struggle with decision making right now doesn’t mean it has to always be that way.
So you have acknowledged that decision making doesn’t come easy to you, now what to do about it. Up first is something I already mentioned, not making a decision is making a decision. You are deciding to stay stuck where you are in this moment, staying in your comfort zone and not moving forward and if this is where you want to stay that is all good.
Now if this isn’t where you want to stay and you would love to be able to make decisions easily and effortlessly then read on, I have a great technique to help you and I promise it won’t hurt at all.
1. Get yourself two post-it notes
2. Write on each one your options
3. Stick them on your bathroom mirror
4. Take 3 deep breaths and relax
5. Stand in front of the first choice
6. Take note of your body language, what is happening? Did your shoulders drop or did you feel energised and start smiling?
7. Now stand in front of the second choice
8. Again take note of your body language.
9. Now its time to analyse the difference in your body language for both choices, this will give you your answer outside of the thoughts of fear that may be appearing in your mind. Your body doesn’t lie, it will assist you in making your important decision.
10. As you become aware of what your body is telling you, your mind will try to take over, giving you the what if questions, which is what tests your confidence and sends you into a spin of indecision. It’s important to follow your body on this one as it can give you important insight into what is the right choice for you.
I use this technique myself in decision making and have found it to be so helpful in not only making decisions but also uncovering my personal reasons for my indecision in the first place.
The more you use this technique the easier it will become and the more you will start to be able to rely on and trust your body language as your partner in making decisions either small or large in your life.
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