Finding Your Soulmate

Searching for your soulmate can feel like a very noble thing to do and after all they are out there waiting for you, right?

Well yes and no, your soulmate is waiting for you on a soul level but they also know there are lessons you came here to learn as did they.  So for some people you may find your soulmate very quickly on this journey and for some of you it may feel like it is taking forever.

The lessons that you need to learn are preparing you to meet up once again with your soulmate, so what do these lessons look like?  Well for some of you it may be like a revolving door of relationships, enduring what seems like never ending hurt and pain.  Others may find jumping from job to job, state to state and country to country.

As you go through each of these experiences, you are learning, lessons along the way as they say.  With each experience your soul is getting closer and closer to being ready to meet up with its mate.

The key here is Patience and Signs…….Have faith in divine timing, knowing you will meet them at the very right time, both for you and them.  Also, pay attention to the signs, where are you being led?


Yes there are lessons to be learned, but part of that is also letting go, as human beings we are renowned at holding on for way too long.  Being open to the new and reducing your fear around change is going to help you to learn the lessons you need to learn and leave the rest behind.

Imagine holding on and pulling at a rope that isn’t for you, it’s not budging and all that holding on does is hurt you. Where as letting go and releasing the rope will provide you with ease and relief.

Do you believe that Soulmates are only Intimate Partners?

Yes, I did too at first until I felt a real connection with a friend, something that I had never felt before, or as my ego would let me believe (topic for another time).  It was a real deep sense of connection, I would know what she was thinking and feeling, without being anywhere near her.  We could go years without actual contact and still keep that strong connection, there is like an underlying current between us that always brings us back to each other in times of need.


I asked the question to my spiritual guides “can someone other than my husband, be my soulmate?”  The answer I got back, surprised me, it was a resounding YES and we don’t have only one soulmate.

So there you go, if you have been searching for your soulmate as an intimate partner, you may be looking in all the wrong places and they may already be in your life.  Is there someone in your life that could be your soulmate?

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Your guide: Nicole Ivens

Hi! I'm Nicole.

I am a Holistic Counsellor & Certified Clinical EFT Practitioner.  I share articles to support you in Mind, Body & Soul.  Covering topics such as: Spirituality, Healing & Empowerment.

I also work with clients privately online utilising EFT Tapping to support them on their healing journey.

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