How long does healing take?
Thank you to one of my listeners of the Thrive with Nicole Podcast for sending in this question…
A very popular question that I get asked a lot, so I know there are many of you that have wondered about this at one time or another.
First thing I am going to say is “how long is a piece of string”.
What I really want you to take away from this article is it is very different for each person, but also flip that around and instead of putting a time line on how long healing is going to take understand it is a lifetime process.
Healing is a lifelong process
If you can take that approach that coming to Earth at this time, or at anytime, is about growth, it’s about lessons and it’s about healing.
If you can have that perspective you are not always going to be looking and asking where is the finish line, how long till I’m fixed, how long till I’m healed?
Honestly you are not someone that needs to be fixed…
There may be things in your life that you have experienced, that are now causing certain patterns to be appearing, but it doesn’t mean that you are broken.
It just means that you are carrying around some heavy stuff and it is weighing you down.
It is about taking that time for yourself to start to heal.
I was talking to one of my clients just the other day, because this is a question I get a lot in client sessions as well.
She asked “when am I going to be fixed, when is this going to be over?”
I have to break the news to them that this is never going to be over, and the look on their face is like I just took away their favourite puppy dog.
But it is the truth, healing is an ongoing process, we are always going to be healing.
Even for me I am continually healing each and every day, I am journaling each and every day, I am tapping each and every day.
Obviously when we start on our healing journey it is a little bit heavier…
A little bit more work to be done because we are bringing up things from the past, traumas from the past that we have been carrying around for so long and that can be some heavy and deep work that we need to be doing.
As we are moving forward we don’t want anything that is happening in the present to then be something we need to heal down the track.
So that is what I mean when I say this is a lifetime process of healing and if you can take this approach, you are never going to get to that place again where you have been carrying around all the heaviness because you would of been doing it all along.
I feel that is important to understand why I say it is a lifelong process…
So no I can’t tell you an exact timeline for your healing to be done.
It is very different for different people, some clients come to me and are just ready to heal everything, they are done carrying it around and are just ready to finally let it all go.
That takes time, some have been working with me on a weekly basis for over 12 months, they have experienced heavy traumas and we are working on them one by one, layer by layer.
Some clients just stay with me because they love their weekly session, knowing they have an hour that is just for them, no other demands on their time, this is their time.
It is important for you to determine what is it you are looking for, what is it you are wanting to heal?
As I mentioned I have clients that come to me and want to heal everything, and then there are some clients that have one event that keeps popping up and they want to stop thinking about it, or they want to forgive someone or forgive themselves.
They come for a couple of sessions and we heal that event and then they are on their way, but what I notice with these clients as well is they tend to come back.
They heal that one event and are good for about 6 months to a year and then they will reach out to me again and say I need to book in, I have another event surfacing that I would like to heal.
So it depends on the person and what it is that is happening in their life, where they are at and what it is they really want to achieve, as to how long their healing takes and the time that they are working with me 1-1.
As I mentioned in the beginning of this article, one thing I really want you to take from this is, healing is a lifelong process.
It is not always deep heavy stuff, if you are healing on a regular basis, every day.
You are not going to come 10 years down the track and find you have this heavy load you have been carrying around and needs deep and heavy healing.
Take the approach I am going to heal each and every day, I am going to take care of myself in the ways that I know are going to help me (however that looks for you).
As I mentioned I am journaling, tapping (EFT) and meditating everyday and that helps me to heal anything in the present whilst I’m also healing things from the past as they surface from my subconscious mind.
To answer your question “how long does healing take?”
It is a lifelong process but of course we can chunk that down into little bits, healing different events at different times to really help you to start to feel lighter, to feel more relaxed, to feel calmer and to start to achieve things in your life that you truly desire and deserve.
If you have any questions you would like answered, certainly let me know, you can comment below or send me an email.
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“I am a Holistic Counsellor and Accredited & Certified Clinical EFT Practitioner based in Pimpama, Gold Coast, Australia.
My approach is to bridge traditional and alternative therapies, my experience has shown me that being a bridge between the two worlds and combining talk therapy with EFT Tapping is very effective.
You don’t have to wait till all the wheels fall off to ask for help, I have noticed with some of my clients that this is where they have to get to before they will reach out.
My role is to provide a safe space for you to express how you are feeling, knowing I will hear you; I will understand you and I will validate how you are feeling.
I help you to find what is causing you to feel the way you do and using EFT to help heal the underlying cause.”
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