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Honour Your Sensitivity

Have you ever been told “you are just too sensitive”?

 

Yes, me too.  I have been told this a number of times, usually by those closest to me.  This for a very long time caused me to feel really bad about myself and like there was something very wrong.

On my journey of getting to know the true me, I have learned that actually my sensitivity is my strength.  I was given this gift for a reason and it is my responsibility and purpose to share it with the world.

 

What is Sensitivity?

Sensitivity is feeling everything at a very deep level, it is not something you have a choice in and at times you may have no idea why you are even feeling emotional.  Another way to describe sensitivity is caring about others very deeply,  have you found yourself crying or feeling really emotional and attached to people on TV?

Yes, me too.  I have got to the point now where I don’t watch the news because it is just too overwhelming and overloads my system.  Sound familiar?

So, you know that you are a sensitive soul, what now?  It is extremely important that you protect yourself, as a sensitive soul you will pick up on other people’s feelings even if they themselves are not aware of them.

I am going to share some simple exercises with you to protect your energy and minimise your system being overloaded.

  1. Surround yourself in white light
    Imagine you are inside of a white bubble, that covers you all the way from your head right down to your feet, ensuring it goes underneath your feet as well.  As you imagine this bubble it is important to ensure you have the intention of deflecting negative emotions whilst still allowing in guidance and abundance.
  2. Body Scan
    Before going out anywhere, do a body scan.  This involves closing your eyes and just scanning your body, noticing any tightness or aches and pains.  What this does is helps you to distinguish between your own body feels and those that are coming from another person.  If you notice body feels that are not yours, you can simply ask your angels to remove this from you as it doesn’t belong to you, it is not yours to carry.
  3. Boundaries
    As a sensitive soul it is paramount that you have boundaries and adhere to them with each and every person you interact with, I don’t care if they are a stranger or your family and closest friends.  To be honest with you it is the ones closest to us that are the biggest offenders of stepping over the line.   Lay out your boundaries and they are non-negotiable, as you treat yourself in a caring and loving way, so will others.

Your Sensitivity is your Strength

Now you have a good understanding of what sensitivity is and how to recognise it within yourself and how to protect this vulnerability.  Now it is time to understand that this is a gift, being sensitive is not a negative trait, if only there were more sensitive souls the world would be a very different place.

Caring deeply for others is not a bad thing as long as you protect yourself.  Staying grounded and recognising what you are picking up on, will make a huge difference in how you view your sensitivity.  There are always going to be people that will step over your boundaries and try to take advantage of this sensitivity and this is where your protection needs to kick in big time.

Using these techniques is going to ensure that your sensitivity is a strength and something you can use to your advantage in being able to help others and serve the world as a light worker.   There is already too much darkness in our world, your light is needed.

A fun way to deal with the negative nellies who say “You are just too sensitive”

I have had a lot of these in my life, so I know exactly how you are feeling when experiencing this statement.  I love to say “really wow thank you so much, what a beautiful compliment.”   It will put them on the back foot real quick and chances of them saying it again is very minimal.

I no longer want you to feel bad about yourself or feel like your sensitivity is a negative trait.  You are a beautiful strong sensitive soul that is needed in the world – Shine Your Light Baby!


 

Are you finding it hard to set your boundaries and deal with being a sensitive soul?

I offer individual online sessions that are individualised to your needs, supporting you to restore your peace of mind.

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Nicole Ivens | Empath Counsellor

 

 

Tap Away Your Child’s Anxiety

Does your child or children suffer with symptoms of Anxiety?

As a sufferer of anxiety as a young child myself and raising two teenage girls who have also experienced symptoms of Anxiety, I know the pressure this puts on you as a parent and your family as a whole.  Childhood anxiety has two sides to the coin, one side is your stress as a parent in dealing with your child’s anxiety symptoms and behaviour and the other side is supporting your child to cope with the anxious symptoms and feelings.

Recently, I have come to realise that not all parents are able to recognise the signs of anxiety because that has not been their experience growing up or in their adult lived experience.  Luckily for me and my girls because of my exposure to anxiety, I can recognise it in a second and felt called to educate parents on what to look for in their child and of course tips on how to cope with it as well.

Anxiety can come in many forms and the important thing here is to understand the distinction between a child just acting out and one who is suffering from anxiety and their behaviour is completely out of their hands and not something they are doing on purpose.

What can anxiety look like?

Perfectionism – a child needing everything to be perfect and in order
Fear of trying new things – this could be a new activity or simply a new food
Worrying about events in the future
Not wanting you as their parent to leave them
Needing to know what is going to happen and when it is going to happen – who is picking me up from school today?
Fear of Failure – For example: Tests and exams at school
Overthinking is a big sign of anxiety – if you notice your child just can’t stop thinking and worrying and analysing – their big questions will be what if this happens? what if that happens?
Sleeping problems

Now not all anxiety is bad, it is completely natural for your child to feel anxious when they are starting something new, meeting new people etc.  When anxiety becomes a problem is when it starts to affect both your child’s life and is causing you stress as their parent.

Anxiety happens when a part of your child’s brain called the ‘Amygdala’ senses a threat of some kind and sends a signal that your child is in some kind of danger and they need to protect themselves.  This is where the flight, fight or freeze response comes in, they show up in the following ways:

Flight – running away and hiding in the room or not wanting to attend something
Fight – may show up like tantrums or unusual outbursts
Freeze – they may just stop and not be able to move or tell you what is wrong

So, how can you help your child if you have recognised they are suffering from anxiety symptoms?  Following I am going to teach a quick technique so you can both help your child and reduce your stress all at the same time.

  1. Tapping – EFT or Tapping is a stress reduction technique and works to quiet that part of the brain that is sending the signal of danger.  It is a very quick and effective technique that is self-applied using acupressure points on your upper body.

 

 

If you would like to learn more about this wonderful quick and effective technique, I am running a Stress Management Workshop for Parents and one of the modules is on Childhood Anxiety.  Click here to book your spot.

Nicole Ivens | Empath Counsellor

 

I Just Can't Meditate

Have You Ever Said “I Just Can’t Meditate”?

I Just Can’t Meditate

Have you said that to yourself or others?

Yes you!  Don’t worry I’ve got your back, so many of my clients have said this to me when I set them homework of meditating every day.  The look of fear on their face is priceless like I have asked them to give me their first born child.  Don’t worry I will never ask for your first born child, I have two teenagers and my hands are already full with as much teenage attitude as I can take.

You lay down, close your eyes and all of a sudden you are thinking about the washing  you haven’t done or the ironing piling up on the back of the couch and hang on a second did I leave the stove on, oh no it’s okay I haven’t cooked dinner yet.  Oh man I really should be cooking dinner, instead of lying here trying to meditate, oh geez I am so bad at this meditating thing, I can’t even stop thinking.   Sound familiar?

I just can't meditate

I get it and trust me I have been there so worried I was bad at meditating because I just can’t stop thinking and drive myself crazy trying to stop my thoughts and then I think about stopping my thoughts, a vicious cycle right?

It always reminds me of the saying “What You Resist Persists”, so resisting your thoughts or thinking actually causes you to think more.  Very unhelpful when you are trying to have a nice quiet moment to yourself, very rare I know.  So, what is the answer?

I have some great refreshing news for you, stopping your thoughts is very unrealistic, you have over 100,000 thoughts every day so no matter how hard you try you can’t stop them all.  Instead of trying to stop them I want you to become an observer of your thoughts, where is your focus right now?  What area of your life are your thoughts focusing in on?

That’s a big relief isn’t it, you get to just pay attention to what your thoughts are instead of trying to stop them.  I always get my clients to look at it like a courtroom, you are the judge and there is a prosecutor and a defense attorney.  You hear each side out and then  you get to decide (judge) what you keep and what you toss out and this allows you great information to what is going on in  your life and what affect your thoughts are having on your day-to-day life.

I just can't meditate

 

The other thing I like to share with my clients is meditation comes in all shapes and sizes, its not a one size fits all.  What works for someone else may not work for you, you need to do what feels right to you and something you can fit into your schedule.  I want you to think about just for a moment of an activity where you just completely lose yourself, time gets away from you and before you know it, the suns going down and the kids are yelling for dinner.

This is also a form of meditation because you are focusing on the task at hand, losing yourself in the moment and feeling a sense of joy and fulfillment.  It’s bringing you out of the external world into your internal world and giving you a break from all the stress and overwhelm that life bestows upon you sometimes.

Follow after me – “I can meditate in my own way and in my own time”

Would you like to feel supported with your meditation?  I work with clients 1-1 to support you in learning how to meditate and make it a part of your regular routine.  www.nicoleivens.com/services

 

Childhood Anxiety

The Signs And Symptoms Of Childhood Anxiety

I had an interesting experience this past week, I was attending an awards ceremony for my youngest daughter, Grace aged 13.  As always the ceremony starts with the Principal Address, he usually talks about the achievements of the kids and how proud he is of all they have achieved for Term 1.

However, this time he started out with what he wanted to achieve and that was 93% attendance record, the school was currently sitting at 87%.  In my mind I was thinking for such a big school that is a pretty good record, it was then that he really grabbed my attention, he used a buzz word “Anxiety” and stated it as the main reason for kids not attending school.

My ears did prick up because I had my business brain on, thinking YES I can help support parents and kids with this.  Well I sure didn’t see or expect what was to come next, his solution to a child’s anxiety left me feeling very dismayed.  He made a suggestion to the kids that all they need to do is become more organised and arrive at school early, so then they are not rushing around and will be the first in class, feeling safe and ready for the day.

What do you think about this approach?  Would this work for your child?

Now there are definitely different levels and types of anxiety and I certainly understand what he was saying in regards to how the kids feel when they are running late and rushed to get to class on time.  But is that really in the child’s complete control, I know for my kids, and I will be honest if they are late it is usually my fault.

This experience really got me thinking and wondered how many people are there that really don’t understand anxiety and what role are they playing in our child’s life and how are they contributing to the wellbeing of each of our children.   Now I know for me I recognise anxiety instantly, 1. I have personal experience 2. I am a trained professional and this led me to today’s blog and wanting to share how you can recognise anxiety in your child.

As I mentioned earlier there are different types of Anxiety, for example some of the common types I see with my clients are: Separation Anxiety, Generalised Anxiety and Situational Anxiety.

  • Separation Anxiety is as the name describes and is more common in younger children, but can also be seen in older children as well just depending on what the child has experienced and is currently coping with.
  • Generalised Anxiety is used to describe anxiety that doesn’t pertain to one certain event, experience or time.  You may have described your child as “An anxious child”.
  • Situational Anxiety is used to describe anxiety that pertains to a certain event or experience, such as tests or exams.  I see this in both younger and older children, for example younger children surrounding doctor or dentist visits and older kids exams at school.

Now that you have a better understanding of the different types of anxiety, let’s look at some of the signs and symptoms to look for in your child.

  • Complaining of stomach pains and no other signs of illness
  • Sweaty palms
  • Withdrawn behaviour, not wanting to participate in activities they would of in the past
  • Talking about all the bad things that may happen (classic anxious behaviour)
  • Crying and hiding behind you (specific to younger children with separation anxiety)
  • Not wanting to go to school and no real reason that you can determine
  • Lashing out at their siblings for reasons that in the past may not have bothered them
  • Feeling overwhelmed
  • Trouble sleeping
  • Grades at school lowering compared to previous reports

These are just a few of the signs and symptoms that your child may exhibit when they are feeling anxious.  Can you recognise any that you have seen in your child?

I know how distressing it can be dealing with anxiety in your children, I am a mum to two teenage girls who both suffer from anxiety.  Having the tools and strategies you need as a parent can really help to lower this feeling of dis-empowerment and distress and I find an individual approach is best.

If you are needing support and guidance to help with your anxious child, I offer in-house counselling in person and online.  Book your session here.

How To Connect With Your True Authentic Self

Connection is the energy between two people, how you connect with another person has a lot to do with the energy between you.  When your energy levels are different, the connection can be more difficult.  You know the saying “I felt like I have known them my whole life”, this comes from both people being on the same energy wave length and you feel an immediate connection.

Connection

Now that you are aware of what a connection is, how can you apply that to your true authentic self?  A connection been the energy between two people, well in this case it is a connection between the self you are aware of and your higher self.  You know that small quiet inner voice you hear and probably ignore most of the time, that is your higher self guiding you.

Starting to improve your connection with your higher self is going to help you to live your life as your true authentic self, instead of living from external expectations and how you think you should live your life.  From the time as a small child you have been instructed on what to do, how to do it and when to do it, so it is no wonder your connection has waned.

Aren’t you tired of living a life that doesn’t feel authentic to you?  Doing things to please others, only to be left feeling depleted instead of energised.  Operating in connection with your higher self will see you doing things in such a way that serves both you and others, remembering when you say yes to others you are in fact saying no to yourself.

In today’s world of social media it can be hard to shut out all the external noise and connect back in with your true authentic self.  Falling into the comparison trap is very common and I for one have been very guilty of comparing myself to others.  So how do you shut out all this noise and connect in with your higher self, let’s look at a few ways.

3 Ways To Connect With Your True Authentic Self

  1. Meditation – is a wonderful way to shut out the external noise and come back to your center.  Think about it as a time of getting to do nothing, instead of viewing it as just another thing you need to do.  I recommend using the app “insight timer”, it has some beautiful music with a timer.  Start out with just 5 minutes and build it up over time, I currently do 20 mins morning and night.
  2. Journaling – is a great way to hear your voice, without any restrictions, just write.  Let it flow and see what comes.  I shared in an earlier blog “The Art Of Letting Go” steps to journaling if you haven’t done it before.  This is something I recommend to all of my clients for both themselves and their children, depending on the age.  For younger kids getting them to draw how they are feeling works wonders.
  3. Breathing – deep breathing is such a quick, easy and effective way to connect in with your true authentic self.  Breathing calms both feelings in your body and thoughts in your mind, give yourself 3 minutes and you will be feeling refreshed and grounded.

Using the above strategies on a regular basis is going to see you feeling calmer, more relaxed and less likely to take on other peoples opinions or judgements as  your own.

If you are finding it hard to have a connection with your true authentic self, I can help you to work through past experiences that are keeping you from re-awakening your deep connection.

www.nicoleivens.com/workwithnicole

Letting Go

The Art of Letting Go

We all go through so many different experiences in our lives.

It is a given that we are going to hold onto certain ones and let go of others.  The question is are you holding onto the right experiences, the ones that will serve you rather than harm you?

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Let’s have a look at the reasons you may have for holding onto certain experiences:

  • They bring you joy, the memory takes you back to a happier time.
  • The experience changed you in some profound way
  • A pivotal moment in your life
  • Guilt is holding you back from releasing the experience
  • Forgiveness, you are unable to forgive others or yourself
  • Punishment, you feel holding onto the anger is punishing the other person or yourself

As you can see there are many reasons we hold onto past experiences and not all are good for us and this list is far from been exhaustive.

 

People are going to take actions that you may deem as offensive or hurtful and sometimes those people are the ones that are the closest to you, yes I am talking about your family members.  When these experiences happen they can hurt you so deeply, right through to your core that it can be hard to see a way out.

I am sure if someone suggests you need to move on or you need to forgive them, your first reaction may be to ask them to hold onto some of your anger.  No other person can know how you are feeling, even if they have had a similar experience, its just not the same.

So if no other person can know how you are feeling, does that mean you are on your own?  No far from it, just because I may not be able to know exactly how you are feeling, I can empathise with what you are experiencing and give you a safe space to just breath and start to let it go.


5 Ways to the Art of Letting Go

  1. Talk about it with a trusted friend or Professional Counsellor
  2. Journaling, start to write out your thoughts and feelings
  3. EFT or Tapping – a quick an effective way to release past hurts and experiences that are no longer serving you
  4. Meditation – a time to just be and releasing your thoughts as they come and go
  5. Forgive yourself – you are not perfect and there will be times you wish you did something different.  Its time to let go of the judgement of YOU!

I get a lot of questions about journaling, main one being “I just don’t know how to do it”.  Here are some tips to help you on your journaling journey:

Just try these five easy steps. You’ll be writing!

W – What do you want to write about? What’s going on? How do you feel? What are you thinking about? What do you want? Name it.

R – Review or reflect on it. Close your eyes. Take three deep breaths. Focus. You can start with “I feel…” or “I want…” or “I think…” or “Today….” or “Right now…” or “In this moment…”

I –  Investigate your thoughts and feelings. Start writing and keep writing. Follow the pen/keyboard. If you get stuck or run out of juice, close your eyes and re-center yourself. Re-read what you’ve already written and continue writing.

T – Time yourself. Write for 5-15 minutes. Write the start time and the projected end time at the top of the page. If you have an alarm/timer on your mobile phone, set it.

E – Exit smart by re-reading what you’ve written and reflecting on it in a sentence or two: “As I read this, I notice—” or “I’m aware of—” or “I feel—”. Note any action steps to take.

In summary….it’s easy to W.R.I.T.E. !
W hat topic?
R eview/reflect
I nvestigate
T ime yourself
E xit smart

Credit to: Center for Journal Therapy – learn more here


These strategies will work wonders in helping you to master the art of letting go and guess what you can use these with your kids too.  I am sure there have been times where you kids have held onto an experience for longer than is healthy for them, I know my kids have.

Successful Parent

What Makes a Successful Parent?

Success = The accomplishment of an aim or purpose

If we follow this definition of success then being a successful parent is going to look different for each person as we all have our own purpose.

What is your purpose?

When you thought about becoming a parent, what were the values you thought would be important in your role as a parent and how do they compare to the reality?

In today’s world of social media we can easily fall into the trap of comparison, seeing how other parents are living their lives can give you a feeling of insecurity.  Reminding yourself of your values as a parent can help to bring you back to who you are and what it is you want to achieve as a parent.

As parents we are continually worried that we may not have all the answers and the way we are raising our kids may be causing them damage.  However, what is important to remember is that you have everything you need within you to be a successful parent.

Let’s look at the traits within you that support you in becoming a successful parent:

  1. Be Yourself
  2. Trust Yourself
  3. Use your Intuition
  4. Respect each child’s uniqueness
  5. Gain knowledge

Coming back to who you are and trust in that will allow you to become the best parent you can be.  There is no other person on this earth that can be a better parent to your child, your child chose you as their parent for a reason.

Trust in your abilities and this will reflect in how you raise your child and yourself in the process.  When I look back over my parenting journey of 16 years, I can see how different my children are as they have grown into young ladies but I can also see a vast difference in my own growth and the growth of my husband.

We are all in this together, trust yourself first and then ask for support as you need it.  Together we will raise enlightened children.

Written by Nicole Ivens

Nicole Ivens is an experienced Professional Counsellor  and EFT Coach.

Nicole supports parents to empower, educate and encourage their children to be their true authentic self.

Learn more about Nicole http://www.nicoleivens.com/about

Living with stress

A Guide to Living with Stress

Let’s start with the acronym for Stress:

STRESS = Situations That Release Emergency Signals or Stimuli

Stress is something we all experience in our lives be that us as adults or our children and sometimes our children are the source of our own stress.

So how do you live with stress in your life without allowing it to be detrimental to your health and inner peace?

It really comes down to having a plan in place and go to strategies that you can use in the moment to reduce and cope with your feelings of stress, either big or small.

In times of high stress I have always found the following quote a great reminder of the control I have in each and every situation.

The situations that appear in our life are not always in our control, but how we react to it, now that is where our power lies.  There are always going to be times in your life where everything goes belly up and your response to it is going to be the catalyst to what happens next.

This is especially important when dealing with our children, when they are acting in ways that cause us stress, it is because they are experiencing their own level of stress, so our reaction to it is paramount to again what happens next.

I am sure you are seeing a pattern here:

Situation > Response > What Happens Next

As you can see our response is the middle ground here which is a very important place to be and as such just as important to have the strategies available to you to gauge your response in each situation.

5 Strategies to Living with Stress

  1. Calm Tone of Voice – This is imperative for how you speak to yourself during times of stress and your children.  This will allow you to calm yourself and those around you, aka your children.
  2. Deep Breathing – Your breath is the biggest natural asset that you have, using it to calm your mind in times of stress will allow you to think in a logical way.  Use 4>4>4 method, breathe in for a count of 4, hold your breath for a count of 4 and exhale for a count of 4.
  3. Smiling – Utilising another natural asset your smile, this will help to relax your muscles, notice more positive options and lower your blood pressure
  4. Stay in the present moment – Ground your energy through using this statement “I am Nicole; I am 42 years old, this is the present and not the past; I am safe here, today is Thursday”  Using this statement with your personal information will bring you back into the present moment where you are safe.
  5. Gratitude Practice – Each day write down one thing you are grateful for and put it in a box and then on days of stress reading these entries will help to lower your stress levels.  Another great thing to do as a family is read these entries on World Gratitude Day – 21st September.

Using these simple strategies in your daily life will help you and your children to start to self-regulate and live with stress in a way that doesn’t affect your health or inner peace.

Learn more about Nicole http://www.nicoleivens.com/about

 

Intuitive Parent

Are you an Intuitive Parent?

In our role as a parent there is never a lack of information been thrown our way, sometimes in ways that we certainly don’t appreciate.

If you are like me this flow of information from when your kids are babies right though to teenagers can be extremely overwhelming.

How do you know what is right for your children?

Each child is unique and has different needs, even within the same family each child is unique.  Have you noticed how different each of your children are?  I know I have, our two girls are very opposite in their personality traits.  My husband and I always talk about how amazing it is, that two children from the same parents can be so different.

So in saying that you need to ask yourself the question, “If all of my children are unique in their own special way, and they have traits from their mum and dad, who would be the most qualified to know what they need?

You are the most qualified person in knowing what your child needs

That is your first step in becoming an empowered intuitive parent, accepting and having an awareness of your strength and unique insight into your child and their needs.

There are always going to be people giving you advice on what it is you should be doing for your child, your job is to appreciate this advice but never submit someone elses’ advice or judgement for your own.  You know best!

Intuitive Parenting is having a trust within yourself to raise your children according to your values and the uniqueness of each child.

Each of us have a higher power to connect in with to support us within this role, that higher power is different for each person.  For me I connect in with my Angels and my Higher Self to help me in what I need to do to support my children.

Becoming an intuitive parent does take time and practice, as for so long you may have been relying on other people to know the right thing to do, be that family and friends or professionals.

5 Steps to becoming an intuitive parent

  1. Trust – starting to trust in yourself and the guidance you are receiving
  2. Messages – How do you receive your signs?  Gut feeling, thought, music, numbers
  3. Tune into your intuition before asking for advice from others
  4. Be an advocate for your children.  People in positions of power are not always right – stand your ground
  5. Each of your children are different and may require different parenting strategies

The difference in your children once you are able to raise them as an intuitive parent will be something you have never experienced.  They will feel heard and really understood and that is a human need for us all, feeling connected.

Need Support?  www.nicoleivens.com/workwithnicole

Epilepsy

My Epilepsy Warrior

In this week’s blog I wanted to share a personal experience with you in hopes of bringing awareness to Epilepsy in Children.   As many of you may or may not know our 16 year old daughter has two types of Epilepsy; Generalised Epilepsy and Photosensitive Epilepsy.

March is the month of Epilepsy Awareness here in Australia with March 26 being Purple Day.

In the past week our daughter’s seizures returned with a vengeance after a 115 day siesta, to say the least it was very heartbreaking for her and us.  Epilepsy can lead you into a false sense of security when the seizures are controlled.  I always remember her neurologist saying to us “never become complacent, even when the seizures are quiet, as Epilepsy is always there just under the surface and will re-surface with a vengeance”.

To give you a better understanding of what having seizures means for a kid, first lets talk about the learning deficits.  If you can imagine losing 10-20 seconds of time many times a day and think about how that would affect your day, that is what our kids are dealing with in trying to attend school every day, keep up with the school work and get some resemblance of an education.

On Friday Gabby had what is called a Tonic Clonic seizure (Grand mal seizure) which lasted for 3 mins, this all happened at school with people who have never experienced it before, so really didn’t know what to do.  The best laid plans go out the window in a moment of panic, I had strict instructions on what needed to happen but unfortunately they did not recognise what was happening.  A big reason for working on a better awareness around childhood epilepsy.

There are over 40 different types of seizures, Gabby has three different types within her two types of epilepsy.  Absence seizure, which is her becoming unconscious and flickering of her eyelids and generally lasts 10-20 secs.  Absence seizure – staring, which is her becoming unconscious and staring into space and generally last 10-20 secs and tonic clonic seizure, stiff arms, shaking legs, eyes rolling back (this type of seizure is more recognised by those with no experience with epilepsy or seizures).

Each child is different in how their seizures present but there is a set of rules in dealing with someone who is having a seizure and below I have shared with you “First Aid for Seizures”.

The aftermath of a seizure

Post seizure can be a tough time for the kids, some come out of it fairly quickly and others stay in what is called “postictal state” for some time.

“The postictal state is the altered state of consciousness after an epileptic seizure. It usually lasts between 5 and 30 minutes, but sometimes longer in the case of larger or more severe seizures, and is characterized by drowsiness, confusion, nausea, hypertension, headache or migraine, and other disorienting symptoms.”

Now the seizure is over and so is the postictal state we get back to life as normal as possible, what does that look like?  For us it is filled with anxiety and supporting Gabby to cope with her daily seizures once again, luckily for us I am a trained professional counsellor and eft coach, so I have the tools to support her.

The important thing to understand is Epilepsy is so much more than just seizures, it is the aftermath and dealing with the fear of seizures on a daily basis.

Epilepsy Family

So, how do we cope with this as a family?  Gabby is the one suffering with the seizures and if we could we would certainly take it away, but for us as a family there are hard times that each of us have to cope with.  My younger daughter Grace struggles sometimes to deal with Gabby’s epilepsy, it frightens her and she is constantly worried about her sister.  As awful as epilepsy is, it has brought our two girls together and they are extremely close.

As her mum I also struggle with anxiety and constant worry about her and what her life is going to be, I did become complacent in a seizure-free period so this past week has been very tough.  As her dad, Alex just wants to protect her and take it away, but obviously he can’t.  He commented recently, “what the hell do we do now?”.

For us having support around us as we go through this journey is paramount to our own emotional and mental wellbeing, we hold each other up as much as we can and having my parents to support us is very comforting.

What can you do to help?

As I mentioned earlier this month is fundraising month for Epilepsy in Australia, there are a lot of events happening around Australia on March 26, get involved and if you are unable to, a donation would be amazing.  I have set up a fundraising page for Gabby and if you are in a position to support children with Epilepsy, it would be very much appreciated.  These donations go to Epilepsy Queensland.

https://purpleday.everydayhero.com/au/find-a-cure-for-gabby

Thank you for your part in spreading the word about Epilepsy and helping with my awareness campaign.

Written by Nicole Ivens

Nicole Ivens is an experienced Professional Counsellor, Wellness Coach and EFT Practitioner.

Nicole helps women to reduce fear and anxiety and take back control of their life by kicking fear to the kerb and getting back in the driver’s seat of their life.

Learn more about Nicole www.nicoleivens.com/about