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What is Maladaptive Stress?

What is Maladaptive Stress?

The term maladaptive is the opposite of adaptive and the dictionary term is “not adjusting adequately or appropriately to the environment or situation.”

Whereas adaptive is described as “having an ability to change to suit changing conditions”.

Maladaptive stress comes from using coping methods that at first seem to work very well, for example avoiding something that causes you high levels of stress, anxiety or even an uncomfortable feeling.  Whilst you may no longer experience those uncomfortable feelings you will have to work hard to avoid the experience or anything similar to that first experience and enters maladaptive stress.

The stress of having to manage your life in a way that avoids any possible chance that you are going to feel that high level of stress or anxiety can be exhausting, overwhelming and a sense of sadness of missing out on living your life the way you truly want and deserve to.

What if you were able to adapt to the situation or experience and using coping methods for the high stress or anxiety?

Like a chameleon changing to suit the environment, it would allow you to step out of avoidance and into acceptance.  Acceptance of your ability to cope with any situation as you have the strategies and coping skills you need.

In a way maladaptive stress is something we swap for that initial stress and anxiety isn’t it?  It feels easier because it is of our choosing, we choose to do it in this way, to not do certain things due to previous experiences.

What if those choices means you have put yourself into your own self-imposed jail?  It is essentially living in a big castle with lots of different rooms, all decorated differently, but you have chosen to live only in the smallest room in the castle, as you know that room, every part of it, no part of that room can ever surprise you.

Whilst that room feels safe to you, it takes a lot of work and energy to stay inside that room and to not allow in any outside forces that would threaten or change that room and the comfort you feel within there.

So the question is do you want to continue to cope with your maladaptive stress and stay within the confines of your self-imposed jail or are you ready to step out and learn some new adaptive coping skills that will allow you to explore all there is for you to experience within your life?

If you are ready to step out I encourage you to give the following exercise a try:

Easy vs Reset Buttons

Easy buttons are the things you do that make you feel instantly better or a fake better but doesn’t last and can actually end up making you feel worse.

Reset buttons are the things you can do that will actually have a deeper affect on you and truly bring you a bigger and longer lasting feeling of peace and happiness.

I’ll share my easy and reset buttons and then I encourage you to write out your list.

Source: Glennon Doyle – Untamed

Now it is over to you, think about and write out your buttons and keep them in a place where you can refer to them in the times where you are likely to turn to the easy buttons.


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Honour Your Sensitivity

Have you ever been told “you are just too sensitive”?

 

Yes, me too.  I have been told this a number of times, usually by those closest to me.  This for a very long time caused me to feel really bad about myself and like there was something very wrong.

On my journey of getting to know the true me, I have learned that actually my sensitivity is my strength.  I was given this gift for a reason and it is my responsibility and purpose to share it with the world.

 

What is Sensitivity?

Sensitivity is feeling everything at a very deep level, it is not something you have a choice in and at times you may have no idea why you are even feeling emotional.  Another way to describe sensitivity is caring about others very deeply,  have you found yourself crying or feeling really emotional and attached to people on TV?

Yes, me too.  I have got to the point now where I don’t watch the news because it is just too overwhelming and overloads my system.  Sound familiar?

So, you know that you are a sensitive soul, what now?  It is extremely important that you protect yourself, as a sensitive soul you will pick up on other people’s feelings even if they themselves are not aware of them.

I am going to share some simple exercises with you to protect your energy and minimise your system being overloaded.

  1. Surround yourself in white light
    Imagine you are inside of a white bubble, that covers you all the way from your head right down to your feet, ensuring it goes underneath your feet as well.  As you imagine this bubble it is important to ensure you have the intention of deflecting negative emotions whilst still allowing in guidance and abundance.
  2. Body Scan
    Before going out anywhere, do a body scan.  This involves closing your eyes and just scanning your body, noticing any tightness or aches and pains.  What this does is helps you to distinguish between your own body feels and those that are coming from another person.  If you notice body feels that are not yours, you can simply ask your angels to remove this from you as it doesn’t belong to you, it is not yours to carry.
  3. Boundaries
    As a sensitive soul it is paramount that you have boundaries and adhere to them with each and every person you interact with, I don’t care if they are a stranger or your family and closest friends.  To be honest with you it is the ones closest to us that are the biggest offenders of stepping over the line.   Lay out your boundaries and they are non-negotiable, as you treat yourself in a caring and loving way, so will others.

Your Sensitivity is your Strength

Now you have a good understanding of what sensitivity is and how to recognise it within yourself and how to protect this vulnerability.  Now it is time to understand that this is a gift, being sensitive is not a negative trait, if only there were more sensitive souls the world would be a very different place.

Caring deeply for others is not a bad thing as long as you protect yourself.  Staying grounded and recognising what you are picking up on, will make a huge difference in how you view your sensitivity.  There are always going to be people that will step over your boundaries and try to take advantage of this sensitivity and this is where your protection needs to kick in big time.

Using these techniques is going to ensure that your sensitivity is a strength and something you can use to your advantage in being able to help others and serve the world as a light worker.   There is already too much darkness in our world, your light is needed.

A fun way to deal with the negative nellies who say “You are just too sensitive”

I have had a lot of these in my life, so I know exactly how you are feeling when experiencing this statement.  I love to say “really wow thank you so much, what a beautiful compliment.”   It will put them on the back foot real quick and chances of them saying it again is very minimal.

I no longer want you to feel bad about yourself or feel like your sensitivity is a negative trait.  You are a beautiful strong sensitive soul that is needed in the world – Shine Your Light Baby!


 

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Nicole Ivens | Empath Counsellor

 

 

I Just Can't Meditate

Have You Ever Said “I Just Can’t Meditate”?

I Just Can’t Meditate

Have you said that to yourself or others?

Yes you!  Don’t worry I’ve got your back, so many of my clients have said this to me when I set them homework of meditating every day.  The look of fear on their face is priceless like I have asked them to give me their first born child.  Don’t worry I will never ask for your first born child, I have two teenagers and my hands are already full with as much teenage attitude as I can take.

You lay down, close your eyes and all of a sudden you are thinking about the washing  you haven’t done or the ironing piling up on the back of the couch and hang on a second did I leave the stove on, oh no it’s okay I haven’t cooked dinner yet.  Oh man I really should be cooking dinner, instead of lying here trying to meditate, oh geez I am so bad at this meditating thing, I can’t even stop thinking.   Sound familiar?

I just can't meditate

I get it and trust me I have been there so worried I was bad at meditating because I just can’t stop thinking and drive myself crazy trying to stop my thoughts and then I think about stopping my thoughts, a vicious cycle right?

It always reminds me of the saying “What You Resist Persists”, so resisting your thoughts or thinking actually causes you to think more.  Very unhelpful when you are trying to have a nice quiet moment to yourself, very rare I know.  So, what is the answer?

I have some great refreshing news for you, stopping your thoughts is very unrealistic, you have over 100,000 thoughts every day so no matter how hard you try you can’t stop them all.  Instead of trying to stop them I want you to become an observer of your thoughts, where is your focus right now?  What area of your life are your thoughts focusing in on?

That’s a big relief isn’t it, you get to just pay attention to what your thoughts are instead of trying to stop them.  I always get my clients to look at it like a courtroom, you are the judge and there is a prosecutor and a defense attorney.  You hear each side out and then  you get to decide (judge) what you keep and what you toss out and this allows you great information to what is going on in  your life and what affect your thoughts are having on your day-to-day life.

I just can't meditate

 

The other thing I like to share with my clients is meditation comes in all shapes and sizes, its not a one size fits all.  What works for someone else may not work for you, you need to do what feels right to you and something you can fit into your schedule.  I want you to think about just for a moment of an activity where you just completely lose yourself, time gets away from you and before you know it, the suns going down and the kids are yelling for dinner.

This is also a form of meditation because you are focusing on the task at hand, losing yourself in the moment and feeling a sense of joy and fulfillment.  It’s bringing you out of the external world into your internal world and giving you a break from all the stress and overwhelm that life bestows upon you sometimes.

Follow after me – “I can meditate in my own way and in my own time”

Would you like to feel supported with your meditation?  I work with clients 1-1 to support you in learning how to meditate and make it a part of your regular routine.  www.nicoleivens.com/services

 

Childhood Anxiety

The Signs And Symptoms Of Childhood Anxiety

I had an interesting experience this past week, I was attending an awards ceremony for my youngest daughter, Grace aged 13.  As always the ceremony starts with the Principal Address, he usually talks about the achievements of the kids and how proud he is of all they have achieved for Term 1.

However, this time he started out with what he wanted to achieve and that was 93% attendance record, the school was currently sitting at 87%.  In my mind I was thinking for such a big school that is a pretty good record, it was then that he really grabbed my attention, he used a buzz word “Anxiety” and stated it as the main reason for kids not attending school.

My ears did prick up because I had my business brain on, thinking YES I can help support parents and kids with this.  Well I sure didn’t see or expect what was to come next, his solution to a child’s anxiety left me feeling very dismayed.  He made a suggestion to the kids that all they need to do is become more organised and arrive at school early, so then they are not rushing around and will be the first in class, feeling safe and ready for the day.

What do you think about this approach?  Would this work for your child?

Now there are definitely different levels and types of anxiety and I certainly understand what he was saying in regards to how the kids feel when they are running late and rushed to get to class on time.  But is that really in the child’s complete control, I know for my kids, and I will be honest if they are late it is usually my fault.

This experience really got me thinking and wondered how many people are there that really don’t understand anxiety and what role are they playing in our child’s life and how are they contributing to the wellbeing of each of our children.   Now I know for me I recognise anxiety instantly, 1. I have personal experience 2. I am a trained professional and this led me to today’s blog and wanting to share how you can recognise anxiety in your child.

As I mentioned earlier there are different types of Anxiety, for example some of the common types I see with my clients are: Separation Anxiety, Generalised Anxiety and Situational Anxiety.

  • Separation Anxiety is as the name describes and is more common in younger children, but can also be seen in older children as well just depending on what the child has experienced and is currently coping with.
  • Generalised Anxiety is used to describe anxiety that doesn’t pertain to one certain event, experience or time.  You may have described your child as “An anxious child”.
  • Situational Anxiety is used to describe anxiety that pertains to a certain event or experience, such as tests or exams.  I see this in both younger and older children, for example younger children surrounding doctor or dentist visits and older kids exams at school.

Now that you have a better understanding of the different types of anxiety, let’s look at some of the signs and symptoms to look for in your child.

  • Complaining of stomach pains and no other signs of illness
  • Sweaty palms
  • Withdrawn behaviour, not wanting to participate in activities they would of in the past
  • Talking about all the bad things that may happen (classic anxious behaviour)
  • Crying and hiding behind you (specific to younger children with separation anxiety)
  • Not wanting to go to school and no real reason that you can determine
  • Lashing out at their siblings for reasons that in the past may not have bothered them
  • Feeling overwhelmed
  • Trouble sleeping
  • Grades at school lowering compared to previous reports

These are just a few of the signs and symptoms that your child may exhibit when they are feeling anxious.  Can you recognise any that you have seen in your child?

I know how distressing it can be dealing with anxiety in your children, I am a mum to two teenage girls who both suffer from anxiety.  Having the tools and strategies you need as a parent can really help to lower this feeling of dis-empowerment and distress and I find an individual approach is best.

If you are needing support and guidance to help with your anxious child, I offer in-house counselling in person and online.  Book your session here.

Letting Go

The Art of Letting Go

We all go through so many different experiences in our lives.

It is a given that we are going to hold onto certain ones and let go of others.  The question is are you holding onto the right experiences, the ones that will serve you rather than harm you?

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Let’s have a look at the reasons you may have for holding onto certain experiences:

  • They bring you joy, the memory takes you back to a happier time.
  • The experience changed you in some profound way
  • A pivotal moment in your life
  • Guilt is holding you back from releasing the experience
  • Forgiveness, you are unable to forgive others or yourself
  • Punishment, you feel holding onto the anger is punishing the other person or yourself

As you can see there are many reasons we hold onto past experiences and not all are good for us and this list is far from been exhaustive.

 

People are going to take actions that you may deem as offensive or hurtful and sometimes those people are the ones that are the closest to you, yes I am talking about your family members.  When these experiences happen they can hurt you so deeply, right through to your core that it can be hard to see a way out.

I am sure if someone suggests you need to move on or you need to forgive them, your first reaction may be to ask them to hold onto some of your anger.  No other person can know how you are feeling, even if they have had a similar experience, its just not the same.

So if no other person can know how you are feeling, does that mean you are on your own?  No far from it, just because I may not be able to know exactly how you are feeling, I can empathise with what you are experiencing and give you a safe space to just breath and start to let it go.


5 Ways to the Art of Letting Go

  1. Talk about it with a trusted friend or Professional Counsellor
  2. Journaling, start to write out your thoughts and feelings
  3. EFT or Tapping – a quick an effective way to release past hurts and experiences that are no longer serving you
  4. Meditation – a time to just be and releasing your thoughts as they come and go
  5. Forgive yourself – you are not perfect and there will be times you wish you did something different.  Its time to let go of the judgement of YOU!

I get a lot of questions about journaling, main one being “I just don’t know how to do it”.  Here are some tips to help you on your journaling journey:

Just try these five easy steps. You’ll be writing!

W – What do you want to write about? What’s going on? How do you feel? What are you thinking about? What do you want? Name it.

R – Review or reflect on it. Close your eyes. Take three deep breaths. Focus. You can start with “I feel…” or “I want…” or “I think…” or “Today….” or “Right now…” or “In this moment…”

I –  Investigate your thoughts and feelings. Start writing and keep writing. Follow the pen/keyboard. If you get stuck or run out of juice, close your eyes and re-center yourself. Re-read what you’ve already written and continue writing.

T – Time yourself. Write for 5-15 minutes. Write the start time and the projected end time at the top of the page. If you have an alarm/timer on your mobile phone, set it.

E – Exit smart by re-reading what you’ve written and reflecting on it in a sentence or two: “As I read this, I notice—” or “I’m aware of—” or “I feel—”. Note any action steps to take.

In summary….it’s easy to W.R.I.T.E. !
W hat topic?
R eview/reflect
I nvestigate
T ime yourself
E xit smart

Credit to: Center for Journal Therapy – learn more here


These strategies will work wonders in helping you to master the art of letting go and guess what you can use these with your kids too.  I am sure there have been times where you kids have held onto an experience for longer than is healthy for them, I know my kids have.

Successful Parent

What Makes a Successful Parent?

Success = The accomplishment of an aim or purpose

If we follow this definition of success then being a successful parent is going to look different for each person as we all have our own purpose.

What is your purpose?

When you thought about becoming a parent, what were the values you thought would be important in your role as a parent and how do they compare to the reality?

In today’s world of social media we can easily fall into the trap of comparison, seeing how other parents are living their lives can give you a feeling of insecurity.  Reminding yourself of your values as a parent can help to bring you back to who you are and what it is you want to achieve as a parent.

As parents we are continually worried that we may not have all the answers and the way we are raising our kids may be causing them damage.  However, what is important to remember is that you have everything you need within you to be a successful parent.

Let’s look at the traits within you that support you in becoming a successful parent:

  1. Be Yourself
  2. Trust Yourself
  3. Use your Intuition
  4. Respect each child’s uniqueness
  5. Gain knowledge

Coming back to who you are and trust in that will allow you to become the best parent you can be.  There is no other person on this earth that can be a better parent to your child, your child chose you as their parent for a reason.

Trust in your abilities and this will reflect in how you raise your child and yourself in the process.  When I look back over my parenting journey of 16 years, I can see how different my children are as they have grown into young ladies but I can also see a vast difference in my own growth and the growth of my husband.

We are all in this together, trust yourself first and then ask for support as you need it.  Together we will raise enlightened children.

Written by Nicole Ivens

Nicole Ivens is an experienced Professional Counsellor  and EFT Coach.

Nicole supports parents to empower, educate and encourage their children to be their true authentic self.

Learn more about Nicole http://www.nicoleivens.com/about

Intuitive Parent

Are you an Intuitive Parent?

In our role as a parent there is never a lack of information been thrown our way, sometimes in ways that we certainly don’t appreciate.

If you are like me this flow of information from when your kids are babies right though to teenagers can be extremely overwhelming.

How do you know what is right for your children?

Each child is unique and has different needs, even within the same family each child is unique.  Have you noticed how different each of your children are?  I know I have, our two girls are very opposite in their personality traits.  My husband and I always talk about how amazing it is, that two children from the same parents can be so different.

So in saying that you need to ask yourself the question, “If all of my children are unique in their own special way, and they have traits from their mum and dad, who would be the most qualified to know what they need?

You are the most qualified person in knowing what your child needs

That is your first step in becoming an empowered intuitive parent, accepting and having an awareness of your strength and unique insight into your child and their needs.

There are always going to be people giving you advice on what it is you should be doing for your child, your job is to appreciate this advice but never submit someone elses’ advice or judgement for your own.  You know best!

Intuitive Parenting is having a trust within yourself to raise your children according to your values and the uniqueness of each child.

Each of us have a higher power to connect in with to support us within this role, that higher power is different for each person.  For me I connect in with my Angels and my Higher Self to help me in what I need to do to support my children.

Becoming an intuitive parent does take time and practice, as for so long you may have been relying on other people to know the right thing to do, be that family and friends or professionals.

5 Steps to becoming an intuitive parent

  1. Trust – starting to trust in yourself and the guidance you are receiving
  2. Messages – How do you receive your signs?  Gut feeling, thought, music, numbers
  3. Tune into your intuition before asking for advice from others
  4. Be an advocate for your children.  People in positions of power are not always right – stand your ground
  5. Each of your children are different and may require different parenting strategies

The difference in your children once you are able to raise them as an intuitive parent will be something you have never experienced.  They will feel heard and really understood and that is a human need for us all, feeling connected.

Need Support?  www.nicoleivens.com/workwithnicole

Meditation

The Benefits of Meditation

Meditation is a bit of a buzz word right now, isn’t it?

So, like the old saying goes if you can’t beat them, join them.  Let’s dive in and look at what meditation is and the benefits you can expect to experience with a regular practice of meditation.

Meditation is having an inner focus and a thought awareness to achieve a state of relaxation and a calm mind.  Sounds pretty good to me, I am sure we can all do with a technique to allow us to have a calm mind.  Although I may be a little biased after all my business is “Calm Your Mind Wellness”.

I’ll start by sharing with you my own personal experience of meditation, as you all may know, I never share anything with you that I haven’t tried myself.

When I first started meditating I felt like I wasn’t very good at it, as my thoughts just kept on coming.  I said things like “I am just not good at this meditating thing” and “I am never going to be able to stop my thoughts”.  I just kept at it and my thoughts kept coming and it wasn’t until I learned that stopping my thoughts wasn’t actually the goal anyway.  Hallelujah!

The release of pressure of my shoulders when I realised this was amazing, now not stopping my thoughts, that I can do.   So if I am not stopping my thoughts what am I doing, I hear you ask?  Well, all you need to do is just let them be, allow them to come and allow them to go.

Thoughts like feelings, just want to be heard in a sense.  Let them come and let them go, the letting go is the important part as at times we tend to hold onto a thought like it is gospel.  I thought it so it must be true, right?  Not necessarily, our thoughts are coming from past experiences, so each person can have a completely different thought over the same situation.

What I want you to start to do is become an observer of your thoughts, a bit like a judge in a courtroom.  You have the prosecutor and the defence attorney, fighting it out and the judge just sits back and observes.  That is your job now, observe your thoughts and decide whether they have merit or not.

5-minute meditation practice

 

Step 1 – Find a quiet place

Step 2 – Sit or lay down

Step 3 – Start 5 minute timer

Step 4 – Close your eyes

Step 5 – Start concentrating on your breath – nice deep breaths

Step 6 – Observe your thoughts

Step 7 – Let your thoughts come and go

Step 8 – Open your eyes and feel refreshed

 

Over time you will be able to increase your time, 5 minutes is a great place to start.  “The Insight Timer App” is perfect for your meditation, it plays music and will sound a chime when your time is up.

The Benefits of Meditation

 

 

  • Relief from stress and anxiety
  • Decreased blood pressure and hypertension
  • Lower cholesterol levels
  • More efficient oxygen use by the body
  • Increased production of the anti-aging hormone DHEA
  • Restful Sleep
  • Feel more grounded
  • Connected to your higher self
  • Increase your intutition
  • Feel more calm and relaxed

As you can see there are so many benefits to meditation and for me the one that stands out the most is just that feeling of overall calm, allows me to deal with situations in my life easily and effortlessly.

Give it a try and let me know what your favourite benefit is.

Learn more about Nicole www.nicoleivens.com/about

Decisions

10 Ways to Effective Decision Making

In planning this week’s blog I asked my mum what she thought would be a good title for a blog about decision making and yes her response was:

“I don’t know, I just can’t decide”

Without even realising it she had made a decision about the title of this week’s blog.  This actually happens a lot we make decisions without even realising it and as we saw here not making a decision, is making a decision.

So what is the inability to make a decision all about, where does it stem from.  I want you to think about a time where you were able to make a decision quite easily compared to a time where you found decision making difficult, what was the difference?

Research shows that self-confidence, self-esteem and past experiences has a lot to do with your current ability to make decisions, especially those decisions that will make a significant change to your life or the life of your loved ones.

Decision making is a skill and one that can be built upon, just because you struggle with decision making right now doesn’t mean it has to always be that way.

So you have acknowledged that decision making doesn’t come easy to you, now what to do about it.  Up first is something I already mentioned, not making a decision is making a decision.  You are deciding to stay stuck where you are in this moment, staying in your comfort zone and not moving forward and if this is where you want to stay that is all good.

Now if this isn’t where you want to stay and you would love to be able to make decisions easily and effortlessly then read on, I have a great technique to help you and I promise it won’t hurt at all.

 

1. Get yourself two post-it notes
2. Write on each one your options
3. Stick them on your bathroom mirror
4. Take 3 deep breaths and relax
5. Stand in front of the first choice
6. Take note of your body language, what is happening?  Did your shoulders drop or did you feel energised and start smiling?
7. Now stand in front of the second choice
8. Again take note of your body language.
9. Now its time to analyse the difference in your body language for both choices, this will give you your answer outside of the thoughts of fear that may be appearing in your mind.  Your body doesn’t lie, it will assist you in making your important decision.
10. As you become aware of what your body is telling you, your mind will try to take over, giving you the what if questions, which is what tests your confidence and sends you into a spin of indecision.   It’s important to follow your body on this one as it can give you important insight into what is the right choice for you.

I use this technique myself in decision making and have found it to be so helpful in not only making decisions but also uncovering my personal reasons for my indecision in the first place.

The more you use this technique the easier it will become and the more you will start to be able to rely on and trust your body language as your partner in making decisions either small or large in your life.

Learn more about Nicole www.nicoleivens.com/about

Empowerment

A Guide to Personal Empowerment

One of my favourite things that I am very passionate about is empowering women to really believe in themselves and get back in the driver’s seat of their life.  The light I see in their eyes when this shift begins to happen is miraculous, they stand tall and have a beautiful confidence within them that then shines out to the world.

Personal empowerment is a very powerful skill to have in your arsenal, being able to empower yourself in each and every moment you are experiencing will make a significant change to your life.

What is Personal Empowerment?

Personal empowerment is looking at yourself and identifying your strengths and weaknesses and gaining an awareness of your uniqueness.  Basically it is understanding who you are, accepting who you are and having a belief in yourself.

“A self-empowered individual does not let go of the power of the expert of self”

On your path towards personal empowerment it is important to remember that no-one knows you or knows what you need more than you do.  Whether you are aware of it or not,  you are the expert on YOU!


Your Pocket Guide to Personal Empowerment

Awareness

Becoming aware of your strengths and weaknesses will allow you to begin to really get to know who you are right now, not who you were as a child or even a younger adult, right now.  Make a list of your strengths and really start to become aware and acknowledge your greatness.

Trust

Starting to build a trusting relationship with yourself is important, to make choices and move forward in your life you need to operate from a state of trust.  Like I mentioned earlier you are the expert on you.  Make a list of all the times where you have done something and it worked out, this will help to build your trust.

Values

What are your values?  Knowing what your values are and having the ability to stand by them can be extremely empowering, this also comes back to knowing who you are and having a belief in yourself.

Skills

Recognising what your skills are and how you can use them in your life to help both yourself and others will give you a sense of great confidence and in turn personal empowerment.

Goals

Setting realistic goals to help you to achieve what it is you want in your life, in itself can be very empowering.  Again, giving you a sense of confidence, responsibility and power over your life.


A lot of the time we go through life without direction and this can lead to losing confidence in yourself and feeling you don’t have what it takes to succeed.

You have everything you need within you to follow your path and fulfill your purpose here on Earth, taking the time to really tune in and becoming aware of who you are, will see you well on your way to Personal Empowerment.

Learn more about Nicole www.nicoleivens.com/about