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how long does healing take

How Long Does Healing Take?

How Long Does Healing Take?

 

Thank you to one of my listeners of The Nurtured Empath Podcast for sending in this question.

 

A very popular question that I get asked a lot, so I know there are many of you that have wondered about this at one time or another.

First thing I am going to say is “how long is a piece of string”.  What I really want you to take away from this article is it is very different for each person, but also flip that around and instead of putting a time line on how long healing is going to take understand it is a lifetime process.

how long does healing take

Healing is a Life Long Process

If you can take that approach that coming to Earth at this time, or at anytime, is about growth, it’s about lessons and it’s about healing.  If you can have that perspective you are not always going to be looking and asking where is the finish line, how long till I’m fixed, how long till I’m healed?

Honestly you are not someone that needs to be fixed, there may be things in your life that you have experienced that are now causing certain patterns to be appearing but it doesn’t mean that you are broken.  It just means that you are carrying around some heavy stuff and it is weighing you down.

It is about taking that time for yourself to start to heal.  I was talking to one of my clients just the other day, because this is a question I get a lot in client sessions as well.  When am I going to be fixed, when is this going to be over?  I have to break the news to them that this is never going to be over and the look on their face is like I just took away their favourite puppy dog.

But it is the truth, healing is an ongoing process, we are always going to be healing.  Even for me I am continually healing each and every day, I am journaling each and every day, I am tapping each and every day.

how long does healing take

Obviously when we start on our healing journey it is a little bit heavier, a little bit more work to be done because we are bringing up things from the past, traumas from the past that we have been carrying around for so long and that can be some heavy and deep work that we need to be doing.

As we are moving forward we don’t want anything that is happening in the present to then be something we need to heal down the track.  So that is what I mean when I say this is a lifetime process of healing and if you can take this approach, you are never going to get to that place again where you have been carrying around all the heaviness because you would of been doing it all along.

I feel that is important to understand why I say it is a lifelong process, so no I can’t tell you an exact timeline for your healing to be done.  It is very different for different people, some clients come to me and are just ready to heal everything, they are done carrying it around and are just ready to finally let it all go.

That takes time, some have been working with me on a weekly basis for over 12 months, they have experienced heavy traumas and we are working on them one by one, layer by layer.  Some clients just stay with me because they love their weekly session, knowing they have an hour that is just for them, no other demands on their time, this is their time.

It is important for you to determine what is it you are looking for, what is it you are wanting to heal?  As I mentioned I have clients that come to me and want to heal everything and then there are some clients that are like there is just this one event that keeps popping up and I just really want to stop thinking about it, or they want to forgive someone or forgive themselves.

They come for a couple of sessions and we heal that event and then they are on their way, but what I notice with these clients as well is they tend to come back.  They heal that one event and are good for about 6 months to a year and then they will reach out to me again and say I need to book in, I have another event surfacing that I would like to heal.

So it depends on the person and what it is that is happening in their life, where they are at and what it is they really want to achieve.  As how long their healing takes and the time that they are working with me 1-1.

As I mentioned in the beginning of this article, one thing I really want you to take from this is, healing is a lifelong process.  It is not always deep heavy stuff, if you are healing on a regular basis, every day.  You are not going to come 10 years down the track and find you have this heavy load you have been carrying around and needs deep and heavy healing.

Take the approach I am going to heal each and every day, I am going to take care of myself in the ways that I know are going to help me (however that looks for you).  As I mentioned I am journaling, tapping (EFT) and meditating everyday and that helps me to heal anything in the present whilst I’m also healing things from the past as they surface from my subconscious mind.

To answer your question “how long does healing take?”  It is a lifelong process but of course we can chunk that down into little bits, healing different events at different times to really help you to start to feel lighter, to feel more relaxed, to feel calmer and to start to achieve things in your life that you truly desire and deserve.

If you have any questions you would like answered, certainly let me know, you can comment below or send me an email.


To work with me privately and start on your healing journey, you can book your online session here.

Nicole Ivens | Empath Counsellor

Empaths and Trauma

Have all Empaths Experienced Trauma?

Have All Empaths Experienced Trauma?

“All Empaths Have Suffered Childhood Trauma or Have They?”

In the Empath community there is a lot of talk and even debate about this blanket statement, I have heard many Empath Coaches state that all empaths have suffered childhood trauma and that is why they are empaths.

You only have to look at the comments in these communities to see that that this isn’t necessarily the whole truth.  I know from my own personal experience that it isn’t true for me, I didn’t suffer from major childhood trauma, yet I am an Empath and always have been.

So, what is your view or opinion on this?  Do you feel your gift as an Empath came first or did you experience childhood trauma and that caused you to now have the traits of an Empath?

For me my experience and personal view and guidance on this topic is that I was given this amazing gift as an Empath from God.  I didn’t suffer any major traumatic experiences as a child, but I do feel my gift of being an empath did make me more susceptible to trauma.

I was talking to my brother just the other day about this, I am 1 of 5 children, the middle child, yes middle child syndrome.  I have two younger brothers and two older sisters and as we spoke about our childhood, I noticed how he interpreted certain experiences very different to me.

I started to notice that even though we grew up in the same house with the same parents and had similar experiences, we interpreted them very differently.  It wasn’t like there was anything bad, it could of been something simple like the way in which our dad might look at me and that could be traumatizing to me due to my sensitivity as an empath.

Where as that could happen to my brother and he wouldn’t even notice, it didn’t affect him in any way at all, he would just brush it off.  So as you can see it was not the trauma that caused me to be sensitive, but my sensitivity that caused me to experience certain events, actions, words, energy as a traumatic event.

Let me be very frank here, I am not saying that you may not have experienced trauma, many of my clients have, unspeakable acts of trauma that no person should ever experience.  This is just what I have experienced personally and noticed within the empath community.

Trauma is definitely something I see amongst the majority of my clients and 95% of my clients are Empaths, some have experienced as I mentioned unspeakable acts against them, but there are also those that just like me were traumatised due to their sensitive nature.

Either way there is a way home, back to your true self, to heal and release the hurt, pain and trauma.  You don’t have to keep carrying around that heavy weight, that burden is not yours to carry.


To begin on your healing journey, I am here for you, to be your companion walking along side you as you start to heal and release your trauma.  Book your online appointment here.

Nicole Ivens | Empath Counsellor

The Three Ingredients you need to let go

The Three Ingredients You Need to Let Go

The Three Ingredients You Need to Let Go

The three ingredients you need to let go

I am sure you have been told time and time again “you just need to let go”, I know I have heard those words more times than I care to count.

It may also have been worded in such a way that made you feel there was something wrong with you, like “you need to get over it” or “build a bridge” is another one I have heard.

Now if you are anything like me you may have been left feeling unheard, misunderstood and maybe even a nuisance to those around you.

I am here to tell you with the assistance of Archangel Azrael, there is a process to letting go and there are certain things that need to happen before you can “just let go”.

Archangel Azrael

On the podcast alongside the three ingredients you need to let go, the difference between walking away and letting go, I also share my very own personal experience of letting go of a 20 year relationship. Click below to listen.

 

Let’s talk about the three ingredients that you need to let go:

1.Heal 2.Grow 3.Let Go

So as you can see the process of letting go isn’t as easy or simple as people in your life and influence may have made out.

To ever have a hope of letting go of something that has caused you pain in some shape or form, you need to take the time to heal.

If you think about a physical injury, one that can be seen by the naked eye, are you ever told to get over it or let it go?  Of course not, because they can see the pain.

Emotional pain like chronic pain and invisible illnesses that can’t be seen by the naked eye, it can cause people to want you to just move on.

Now the kicker here is something that I really want you to understand, this isn’t about you.  This is about them and the uncomfortable feeling they are experiencing in not being able to soothe your hurt, to make you feel better to heal you.

So now you understand that part is not about you, lets chat about the part that is……the healing is your part, your responsibility.  Its giving yourself the time to heal, to work through the pain you have experienced and able to integrate it into your experience, where it no longer causes you pain in the present.

Note: This isn’t about letting anyone but yourself off the hook.

Through this process of healing you won’t have a choice but to grow, as you heal from the experience you are going to grow, you are going to learn things about yourself that you didn’t know before – aka growth.

One of the biggest parts of being on Earth at this time is for your soul to learn lessons and for the most part unfortunately those lessons come with pain.  Your role is to move through the experience, heal what you went through, take the lesson and then yes then and only then are you ready to let go.

These three ingredients are your key to starting to let go of things, people and experiences that have caused you pain and are still carrying it around.  Pain is heavy, whether that is physical or emotional, it is exhausting.

If you are ready to heal, grow and let go then its time for you to book your free call.  You can book it right here and I will share with you how I can support you as you start on your healing journey and let go of all of that pain that is weighing you down and leaving you feeling exhausted.


Nicole Ivens | Empath Counsellor

How To Increase Your Abundance | Wednesday Wisdom

How To Increase Your Abundance

Would you like to know how to increase your abundance without having to do anything?  Then keep reading!

Abundance has become what I like to call a “Buzz Word”, every second person is talking about it, but how do you actually become more abundant?  Is it something you need to add to your daily | Weekly to-do-list, I hear you saying God I hope not.

Well, I have good news for you, NO there is nothing you need to do, to become more abundant, sounds good right?  Or too good to be true?

Honestly, you can sit where you are right now, not even get up off the couch | chair | bed etc and become more abundant – wait what??  Yes you read that right, there is nothing you need to do, however there is something you need to be.

Are you ready for me to lay it on you?

Abundance is a FEELING!  Read that again…….Abundance is a FEELING!

Yep you are going to have to FEEL, I know I know, that taboo feeling word.  As you start to feel more abundant then the Universe is going to have its to-do-task and will send you more experiences and opportunities to feel more abundant.  Do you see the pattern here………your feelings are your instructions to the universe.

So I hear you saying OK great, but how do I do that?  I have a few tips for you, let’s get into them.

Tip #1 ~ Awareness ~

Start to become more aware of the abundance around you, have a look outside or even better go outside in nature, check out that beautiful tree, look at all its leaves – HELLO Abundance.  It is everywhere around you, as soon as you open your awareness you are going to start to see it everywhere, which is going to increase your feeling of abundance and of course your instruction to the Universe.  Boom!

Tip #2 ~ Feel IT ~

Yes you are going to have to feel it, whether you like it or not.  Feelings are vibrations and vibrations is how the Universe takes it’s cue from you to what it is you want in your life.  You can do all the things you like to bring in more money aka abundance but if you are not feeling it, then the Universe won’t either.

Tip #3 ~ Respect ~

Money isn’t something we particularly respect, its just something we view as a need, what we need to survive here on the Earthly Plane.  While yes that is true, we do need money to survive, it has its own energy (as does everything) and its important to have both your energy and the energy of your money work together congruently.

So a little task for you today – I know I said you didn’t need to do anything – my bad.  Have a look in your hand bag, purse, wallet – how does it look?  Does it look clean and tidy, like you respect it or is it more like a dumping ground.  What energy do you think your handbag, purse, wallet is sending out?

If its more like a dumping ground, then its time to clear it out, making room for you to receive, we always want space to receive more.

As you clean out your handbag, purse, wallet you are not only DE-cluttering the physical you are also DE-cluttering your mind, which in turn changes how you are feeling and Bam the vibration you are sending to the Universe changes.  Hello Abundance!

Click the video below to hear more about How To Increase Your Abundance

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