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How Long Does Healing Take?

How Long Does Healing Take?

 

Thank you to one of my listeners of The Nurtured Empath Podcast for sending in this question.

 

A very popular question that I get asked a lot, so I know there are many of you that have wondered about this at one time or another.

First thing I am going to say is “how long is a piece of string”.  What I really want you to take away from this article is it is very different for each person, but also flip that around and instead of putting a time line on how long healing is going to take understand it is a lifetime process.

how long does healing take

Healing is a Life Long Process

If you can take that approach that coming to Earth at this time, or at anytime, is about growth, it’s about lessons and it’s about healing.  If you can have that perspective you are not always going to be looking and asking where is the finish line, how long till I’m fixed, how long till I’m healed?

Honestly you are not someone that needs to be fixed, there may be things in your life that you have experienced that are now causing certain patterns to be appearing but it doesn’t mean that you are broken.  It just means that you are carrying around some heavy stuff and it is weighing you down.

It is about taking that time for yourself to start to heal.  I was talking to one of my clients just the other day, because this is a question I get a lot in client sessions as well.  When am I going to be fixed, when is this going to be over?  I have to break the news to them that this is never going to be over and the look on their face is like I just took away their favourite puppy dog.

But it is the truth, healing is an ongoing process, we are always going to be healing.  Even for me I am continually healing each and every day, I am journaling each and every day, I am tapping each and every day.

how long does healing take

Obviously when we start on our healing journey it is a little bit heavier, a little bit more work to be done because we are bringing up things from the past, traumas from the past that we have been carrying around for so long and that can be some heavy and deep work that we need to be doing.

As we are moving forward we don’t want anything that is happening in the present to then be something we need to heal down the track.  So that is what I mean when I say this is a lifetime process of healing and if you can take this approach, you are never going to get to that place again where you have been carrying around all the heaviness because you would of been doing it all along.

I feel that is important to understand why I say it is a lifelong process, so no I can’t tell you an exact timeline for your healing to be done.  It is very different for different people, some clients come to me and are just ready to heal everything, they are done carrying it around and are just ready to finally let it all go.

That takes time, some have been working with me on a weekly basis for over 12 months, they have experienced heavy traumas and we are working on them one by one, layer by layer.  Some clients just stay with me because they love their weekly session, knowing they have an hour that is just for them, no other demands on their time, this is their time.

It is important for you to determine what is it you are looking for, what is it you are wanting to heal?  As I mentioned I have clients that come to me and want to heal everything and then there are some clients that are like there is just this one event that keeps popping up and I just really want to stop thinking about it, or they want to forgive someone or forgive themselves.

They come for a couple of sessions and we heal that event and then they are on their way, but what I notice with these clients as well is they tend to come back.  They heal that one event and are good for about 6 months to a year and then they will reach out to me again and say I need to book in, I have another event surfacing that I would like to heal.

So it depends on the person and what it is that is happening in their life, where they are at and what it is they really want to achieve.  As how long their healing takes and the time that they are working with me 1-1.

As I mentioned in the beginning of this article, one thing I really want you to take from this is, healing is a lifelong process.  It is not always deep heavy stuff, if you are healing on a regular basis, every day.  You are not going to come 10 years down the track and find you have this heavy load you have been carrying around and needs deep and heavy healing.

Take the approach I am going to heal each and every day, I am going to take care of myself in the ways that I know are going to help me (however that looks for you).  As I mentioned I am journaling, tapping (EFT) and meditating everyday and that helps me to heal anything in the present whilst I’m also healing things from the past as they surface from my subconscious mind.

To answer your question “how long does healing take?”  It is a lifelong process but of course we can chunk that down into little bits, healing different events at different times to really help you to start to feel lighter, to feel more relaxed, to feel calmer and to start to achieve things in your life that you truly desire and deserve.

If you have any questions you would like answered, certainly let me know, you can comment below or send me an email.


To work with me privately and start on your healing journey, you can book your online session here.

Nicole Ivens | Empath Counsellor

The Three Ingredients you need to let go

The Three Ingredients You Need to Let Go

The Three Ingredients You Need to Let Go

The three ingredients you need to let go

I am sure you have been told time and time again “you just need to let go”, I know I have heard those words more times than I care to count.

It may also have been worded in such a way that made you feel there was something wrong with you, like “you need to get over it” or “build a bridge” is another one I have heard.

Now if you are anything like me you may have been left feeling unheard, misunderstood and maybe even a nuisance to those around you.

I am here to tell you with the assistance of Archangel Azrael, there is a process to letting go and there are certain things that need to happen before you can “just let go”.

Archangel Azrael

On the podcast alongside the three ingredients you need to let go, the difference between walking away and letting go, I also share my very own personal experience of letting go of a 20 year relationship. Click below to listen.

 

Let’s talk about the three ingredients that you need to let go:

1.Heal 2.Grow 3.Let Go

So as you can see the process of letting go isn’t as easy or simple as people in your life and influence may have made out.

To ever have a hope of letting go of something that has caused you pain in some shape or form, you need to take the time to heal.

If you think about a physical injury, one that can be seen by the naked eye, are you ever told to get over it or let it go?  Of course not, because they can see the pain.

Emotional pain like chronic pain and invisible illnesses that can’t be seen by the naked eye, it can cause people to want you to just move on.

Now the kicker here is something that I really want you to understand, this isn’t about you.  This is about them and the uncomfortable feeling they are experiencing in not being able to soothe your hurt, to make you feel better to heal you.

So now you understand that part is not about you, lets chat about the part that is……the healing is your part, your responsibility.  Its giving yourself the time to heal, to work through the pain you have experienced and able to integrate it into your experience, where it no longer causes you pain in the present.

Note: This isn’t about letting anyone but yourself off the hook.

Through this process of healing you won’t have a choice but to grow, as you heal from the experience you are going to grow, you are going to learn things about yourself that you didn’t know before – aka growth.

One of the biggest parts of being on Earth at this time is for your soul to learn lessons and for the most part unfortunately those lessons come with pain.  Your role is to move through the experience, heal what you went through, take the lesson and then yes then and only then are you ready to let go.

These three ingredients are your key to starting to let go of things, people and experiences that have caused you pain and are still carrying it around.  Pain is heavy, whether that is physical or emotional, it is exhausting.

If you are ready to heal, grow and let go then its time for you to book your free call.  You can book it right here and I will share with you how I can support you as you start on your healing journey and let go of all of that pain that is weighing you down and leaving you feeling exhausted.


Nicole Ivens | Empath Counsellor

Ask Your Angels Ep25

Energy of the Week | Ask Your Angels Ep25

ASK YOUR ANGELS ~ EPISODE 25

Energy of the week for 20th-26th January 2020

Archangel Michael provided me with insight for the week ahead, before I even looked at the cards.  He is guiding that there may be a situation that comes up that feels similar to past experiences, but he is guiding it is not the same and wants to encourage you to not allow the past situation or experience topple on top of the current one.  When you bring past experiences into current ones it can make the current one 10 even 100 times worse.  What you can do though is bring forth the lessons you learned, what did you learn in the past that will help in the present?
Tune in to your Cosmic Team and Ask Your Angels what do I need?
Pick card 1, 2, 3 or 4.

 

Ask Your Angels Ep25

Your Guidance Revealed

Ask Your Angels Ep25

Card 1: Honour & Trust Your Feelings

Your guidance starts at 3:19 in the video below.

Prayer: “Thank you, Archangel Michael, for supporting, guiding and protecting me as I listen to and act upon my feelings.  Help me understand and express my emotions with love.”

Wonderful to see Archangel Michael confirming what I have been sharing with you on social media over the past week (if you are not following me, you can find me @nicoleivens on Instagram and Facebook).  Honouring and trusting your feelings is such a big part of your growth as a soul, but as humans we are very good at suppressing, escaping and quietening our feelings and emotions.  There is always something or someone within reach to distract you from feeling, from processing your emotions.  As I shared this past week the pathway is “I feel you, I acknowledge you and I release you”, following this is going to see you feeling lighter, brighter and more energetic.

Your feelings are there for a reason, they have a message for you and all they want is to be heard and that is done through feeling.  So your guidance this week is to FEEL, I know I know, not fun but the inner work very rarely is, but boy is it rewarding and empowering.

Let me know below how this resonated for you, or if it didn’t let me know that too, as I would love to share with you further insights on why you may feel that way. 

Card 2: Energy Healing Work

Your guidance starts at 6:02 in the video below.

Prayer: “Thank you for sending healing energy to me and through me, for my own blessings and for all those around me.  Thank you for connecting me to loving and high-integrity healers and teachers of energy-healing modalities.”

Energy healing is such a powerful modality and one I am very passionate about and advocate for as an experienced practitioner, maybe its the reason you have been drawn to me.  Its been a privilege this week to hear so many of your stories and connecting with many of you in our free discovery sessions, if you have pulled this card it is just another layer of confirmation that it is time.  Time to take care of yourself, time to do things in a different way and that you are ready to master and nurture your energy.

Have you thought about energy healing and wondered if it could help you?  This is your angels way of giving you the big thumbs up.

Let me know below how this resonated for you, or if it didn’t let me know that too, as I would love to share with you further insights on why you may feel that way. 

Card 3: New Beginnings & A Fresh Start

Your guidance starts at 8:18 in the video below.

Prayer: “Thank you for bringing new opportunities and offering support, and for helping me release and heal my past.  Fill me with trust as I experience these life changes.”

New beginnings and fresh starts can be scary, your angels are guiding its not a time to look at the big picture but at the little baby steps  you can take in the direction of your ideal lifestyle, how does that look for you?  They are also showing me that this is essentially what our spiritual path is, just putting one foot in front of the other heading along on our journey.

When we think about new beginnings fears can pop up around leaving your comfort zone, leaving behind things and people that you feel safe with.  The unknown can be a scary place, but it is where the magic lies and where the biggest growth happens.  Unfortunately not a lot of growth happens within that comfort zone, that’s why its called comfort.

As the prayer says “helping me release and heal my past” this part is essential to moving forward, to a fresh start,  you don’t want to be carrying the old experiences around with you, they are heavy and they keep you stuck and tethered to your current position.  Its time to let go, to release, you are ready to master and nurture your energy for a new beginning.

Let me know below how this resonated for you, or if it didn’t let me know that too, as I would love to share with you further insights on why you may feel that way. 

Card 4: Prayer Will Help This Situation

Your guidance starts at 11:37 in the video below.

Prayer: “Dear God and Archangel Michael, I ask for your Divine intervention.  I welcome your help, and I trust and follow your guidance with gratitude and grace.  I need a miracle and ask that you send one to me and this situation quickly.  Thank you and amen.”

The angels are guiding this card may be triggering for you, that maybe prayer is something you associate with the church system as do I.  Prayer was something for a long time I struggled with as I was raised as a Catholic and my girls do still go to a Catholic school, so prayers were something I guess I felt was forced upon me, I was told when and how I could pray.  So no wonder it was triggering for me, through my own healing and working with my angels I have learned a new perspective, a new way to look at prayers.

Your angels are asking me to share this with you, look at praying as you talking, asking and communicating with the divine (however that looks for you) and then meditation (again however that looks for you) is where you receive answers, guidance and solutions.  The divine and your intuition is a very quiet voice and just can’t be heard above our noisy world, so that is why meditation or your quiet time (be that out on a walk or engrossed in your favourite hobby) is so important to help you feel guided and supported.

Think about having a conversation with someone here on earth, if you do all the talking and don’t let them get a word in edge ways, there is no to and fro, no feedback, no support or guidance, its all very one sided.  Whereas if you allow the other person to converse with you, its a much better experience, a relationship built on mutual trust and respect.  Its the same for your relationship with your higher power, asking for what you need and allowing them to provide this to you in a way that works for them.

Let me know below how this resonated for you, or if it didn’t let me know that too, as I would love to share with you further insights on why you may feel that way. 

 

A beautiful week ahead empowering you to know by listening, trusting and embracing your inner guidance system aka your feelings you will experience tremendous growth and heading in the direction of the life you have always wanted and dreamed about.  It is within your power.
You Are Ready To Master & Nurture Your Energy

 

You can also watch my Video to hear more about each card and the guidance I provided ~ click below

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Nicole Ivens | Gold Coast Counsellor

 


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