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The Emotional River

The Emotional River

Your emotions are very much like a river flowing, their job is to flow through you and just like in a river when there is an obstacle they will try to go around but when they can’t they will build up.

This build up can then feel for you like you are drowning under the weight of your emotions, like a river that overflows and the riverbanks start to give way.

The riverbank giving way within you can look and feel like, overwhelm, high stress levels and debilitating anxiety.

Unlike the river you can stand up and what felt like you were drowning will now feel manageable, water that you are now just wading in.

Standing up can come in a number of different ways, the first step is to make a decision to no longer drown under the weight of your emotions.

Once you make that decision which is essentially you standing up in the river, choosing to no longer be swallowed up, you are now ready to do the inner work.

The Emotional River

The inner work also comes in many different shapes and forms, so I am going to share some strategies with you and then you can try them out and choose which feels right for you.

  • Journaling – clearing your mind and putting it down onto paper, allowing you to feel clearer and see the truth of your thoughts
  • EFT – Tapping is a wonderful way to clear energy blockages, limiting beliefs and intrusive thoughts and emotions.
  • Meditation – Just 5-10 mins a day will allow you to sit in the quiet, spending time with your breath and blocking out the noisy outside world
  • Commune with Nature – spend time outside in nature barefoot, allowing mother nature to show you her love and support

They are just a few ways for you to start to spend more time on your inner self and finding the answers you have been searching for.

Remember whilst sometimes your emotions feel like they are drowning you, they are not trying to hurt you, they are your friend not your enemy.  Giving them the space to move through will allow you to feel lighter in mind, body and spirit.


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What is Maladaptive Stress?

What is Maladaptive Stress?

The term maladaptive is the opposite of adaptive and the dictionary term is “not adjusting adequately or appropriately to the environment or situation.”

Whereas adaptive is described as “having an ability to change to suit changing conditions”.

Maladaptive stress comes from using coping methods that at first seem to work very well, for example avoiding something that causes you high levels of stress, anxiety or even an uncomfortable feeling.  Whilst you may no longer experience those uncomfortable feelings you will have to work hard to avoid the experience or anything similar to that first experience and enters maladaptive stress.

The stress of having to manage your life in a way that avoids any possible chance that you are going to feel that high level of stress or anxiety can be exhausting, overwhelming and a sense of sadness of missing out on living your life the way you truly want and deserve to.

What if you were able to adapt to the situation or experience and using coping methods for the high stress or anxiety?

Like a chameleon changing to suit the environment, it would allow you to step out of avoidance and into acceptance.  Acceptance of your ability to cope with any situation as you have the strategies and coping skills you need.

In a way maladaptive stress is something we swap for that initial stress and anxiety isn’t it?  It feels easier because it is of our choosing, we choose to do it in this way, to not do certain things due to previous experiences.

What if those choices means you have put yourself into your own self-imposed jail?  It is essentially living in a big castle with lots of different rooms, all decorated differently, but you have chosen to live only in the smallest room in the castle, as you know that room, every part of it, no part of that room can ever surprise you.

Whilst that room feels safe to you, it takes a lot of work and energy to stay inside that room and to not allow in any outside forces that would threaten or change that room and the comfort you feel within there.

So the question is do you want to continue to cope with your maladaptive stress and stay within the confines of your self-imposed jail or are you ready to step out and learn some new adaptive coping skills that will allow you to explore all there is for you to experience within your life?

If you are ready to step out I encourage you to give the following exercise a try:

Easy vs Reset Buttons

Easy buttons are the things you do that make you feel instantly better or a fake better but doesn’t last and can actually end up making you feel worse.

Reset buttons are the things you can do that will actually have a deeper affect on you and truly bring you a bigger and longer lasting feeling of peace and happiness.

I’ll share my easy and reset buttons and then I encourage you to write out your list.

Source: Glennon Doyle – Untamed

Now it is over to you, think about and write out your buttons and keep them in a place where you can refer to them in the times where you are likely to turn to the easy buttons.


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How to Boost Your Immune System

How to Boost Your Immune System

How To Boost Your Immune System

 

This is a topic and question on everyone’s mind right now on a global scale, how can I boost my immunity?  I know for me when this global pandemic started my first thoughts went to how am I going to keep my girls safe, especially my eldest who is immunocompromised.

We went through all the normal steps that were being recommended by medical experts, social distancing, personal hygiene, hand sanitizer and vitamin supplements.

As an energy healer I was very aware that there was more too it, there were other things that had the capacity to be lowering our immunity.

According to the Centre for Disease Control (CDC) there is and emotional component in 85% of all illnesses.

Stress and anxiety can have a huge impact on your physical health, especially chronic levels and during this time there is unprecedented levels of stress in people on a global scale.

To add to that is not only your own stress and anxiety, but what you as an Empath are feeling from not only those in your physical presence but the overwhelming vibration of our planet right now.

You may look at your own circumstances and feel you know what it’s okay, I am doing fine, yet still experiencing a low grade anxiety.  The issue I have noticed with that is, when it is your own stress and anxiety you can use your coping tools but when its coming from something you know nothing about, now that is challenging.

Just the awareness of the vibration that the planet is operating at right now can be a huge help to you, knowing that you may feel a low grade anxiety that is not yours helps you to cope.

Connecting in with your cosmic team and always asking the question “is this mine?” If not ask them to release it from your auric field.  Due to the high levels of anxiety right now, it is important to add this to your tool box and use it regularly.

Lets look at how stress effects your immune system:

“Since emotions run every system in the body, don’t underestimate their power to treat and heal” – Dr Candace Pert

What we think and what we tell ourselves can either support or undermine our health.  Because the immune system is so sensitive to thoughts, emotions, and subtle energies, energy healing can be an extremely useful tool in supporting wellness, fighting illness and speeding healing.


According to Neuroscientist Dr Joe Dispenza – You can read full article here

How to Boost Your Immune System

“As people begin to overcome emotional states that keep them connected to past experiences—as they break out of redundant habits and automatic programs, as well as change certain self-destructive attitudes and beliefs—aspects of their immune system up-regulate genes. This means that their thoughts and feelings are signaling cells within the body’s internal defense system to turn on healthy genes to make better proteins—otherwise known as healthy anti-bodies—as well as a host of other beneficial chemicals to balance and regulate the body. This process in turn reduces inflammation, suppresses tumors, mobilizes enzymes, and so on.

So the next time you sit down to create a better life, a healthier body, or a new experience, just remember that your brain and body have never been separate and the bridge between them is your immune system. You see, your body has always been spying on your brain. So why not use your nervous system—the greatest pharmacist ever—to activate your body’s internal army to create order for you every day? You don’t even need a prescription.”


Understanding the effect of stress on your physical body is the first step but as we all know stress is a constant in all of our lives.  So the important thing is to learn how to navigate it in your life, finding, understanding and implementing coping tools that help to reduce your stress levels.

EFT has been shown through scientific studies to have a great effect both on lowering stress levels but also the physical effects of stress on the body, including the immune system.  The following physical improvements have been recorded:

  • Lowers your blood pressure
  • Boosts your immune system
  • Reduces inflammation
  • Lowers your level of stress hormones
  • Boosts your metabolism
  • Counters aging
  • Improves your resting heart rate
  • Helps your cells fight cancer
  • Counters insulin resistance
  • Improves your neural signaling
  • Counters autoimmune disease
  • Strengthens your cell membranes
  • Reduces oxidative stress

How to Boost Your Immune System

EFT Tapping has been scientifically proven to rewire the brain to bring both the body and mind back into balance!

“The most revealing studies of the physiological aspects of EFT have examined its epigenetic effects. A population of veterans with PTSD received 10 EFT sessions. It found regulation of 6 genes associated with inflammation and immunity. A pilot study comparing an hour-long EFT session with placebo in 4 nonclinical participants found differential expression in 72 genes. These included genes associated with the suppression of cancer tumors, protection against ultraviolet radiation, regulation of type 2 diabetes insulin resistance, immunity from opportunistic infections, antiviral activity, synaptic connectivity between neurons, synthesis of both red and white blood cells, enhancement of male fertility, building white matter in the brain, metabolic regulation, neural plasticity, reinforcement of cell membranes, and the reduction of oxidative stress. The broad function of this suite of genes is similar to that found in Church et al, confirming the association of EFT with the downregulation of inflammation and stress markers and the upregulation of immune markers.”  You can read the full scientific study here

Whilst seeing the scientific studies is needed and fantastic to see, I have found both my own personal experience and those of my clients is the most powerful. Just a short three years ago I was very unwell physically after many years of chronic stress levels due to my daughters seizures.

Through the use of EFT to navigate my stress levels, I was able to not only cope with what I needed to deal with I was able to heal events, memories and words of my past that were having a large impact on my body.

I went from getting sick all the time, a new cold or infection every week to feeling well and not catching any colds or infections.  I was amazed to see the difference in how I was feeling just by healing emotionally.

“Our emotional wellbeing has a massive effect on our physical wellbeing” – Nicole Ivens


To start to learn how to navigate your stress and anxiety levels and learn the wonderful and effective technique of EFT, you can book your session here.

Nicole Ivens | Empath Counsellor

what is energy healing

What is Energy Healing?

What is Energy Healing?

Another great question sent in by one of our loyal listeners of “The Nurtured Empath” Podcast

 


This is a question I do get asked a lot and it is a broad topic as there are so many different types of energy healing that come under the umbrella “Energy Psychology”.

I am going to talk to you about the type of energy healing that I am trained, certified and have experience within and that is EFT-Tapping.

what is energy healing

EFT or Emotional Freedom Techniques and also well known as Tapping as we tap on the upper body and face.  It is quite self-explanatory, it is giving you freedom from your emotional disharmony.

As I mentioned it is commonly referred to as tapping because we do a gentle tapping or percussion of the fingertips on the skin.  It is also described as a form of psychological acupressure, if you have ever had acupuncture, it is like that but without the needles.

It is tapping on the specific meridians on the upper body and face whilst you think about a problem you are experiencing.  What we have found with the combination of the tapping and the voicing of what is going on for you is a clearing of the short in the energy circuit, or better described as clearing out the emotional energy block.

Helping your mind and body to restore its balance, which helps you to gain and maintain optimal health.

Everything here on earth is made up of energy including us, so all that is within us is energy, and if you have blocks within your energy field it is going to have an impact on you in mind, body and spirit.

Energy healing and specifically what I do – EFT-Tapping – it really helps to release those blocks, allowing them to find their way out.  Because if you continue to hold these blocks within your system, it is not just going to affect your energetic system it is going to start to affect you on a physical level as well.

What I have learned and noticed through my training, the healing I have done on myself but also my clients is there always seems to be an emotional component to any physical issue or chronic disease.

It has come from something and stress is a very big indicator with that, and what we have found with EFT-Tapping is that it lowers the stress hormone – cortisol.  Tapping really helps you to return to a calm and relaxed state, instead of staying within a stressed and anxious state.

If you think about a time where you have been through a really rough time,  you are in a very heightened stressed state and it can be hard to come back to the beautiful calm and relaxed state due to what you have experienced.

what is energy healing

What I have found with energy healing and EFT is that it is just such a simple thing that you can do, it is essentially right at the end of your fingers, you don’t need to go and grab anything it is right there.  You can just start tapping on the upper body and face and start to release out some of that anxiety and stress, so you are not carrying that around with you for a long period of time.

Energy healing really is a tool to ensure you are not continuing to carry around heavy energy that is only doing you a disservice, mentally, physically and emotionally.

In a previous article and podcast episode I talked about the energetic body vs the emotional body vs the physical body and energy healing and EFT-tapping is really going to help you to support each of those bodies individually and holistically.

Our body is very wise and very good at healing things for us including chronic disease, if we allow it to get into the right environment to be able to do that and heal itself.

The problem with that is, if we are carrying around high levels of stress, high levels of trauma from past experiences in our body then it can’t heal itself.  It just doesn’t have that capacity, because it has all those blocks sitting in its system, so it needs us to help it and that is where energy healing and EFT-tapping comes in.

Now as an energy healer and certified EFT Practitioner I am working in this area each and every day, both on myself and with my clients.  Guiding my clients to release experiences of the past that are holding them back, gently of course.

On top of that EFT-Tapping empowers you to take back your life.  Obviously for the deeper wounds and traumas it is important that you are working with me in private session, as I will guide you and keep you safe.  But for day to day experiences, such as anxiety, stress, overall emotions that you encounter, EFT-tapping will help to keep you in a calm state despite what is going on around and outside of you.

A question I get asked a lot especially from my private clients is always “but what if I don’t know the words”, the good thing is, if you are in that emotion already, you are feeling sad or angry, stressed or anxious.  You are already in it, so you don’t need the words, just start tapping and you will start to notice the emotion dissipate and bring you back to a state of calm.

If you haven’t done tapping before, I have done a short video as an introduction to tapping for you to check out.

 

You can also book in with me for a private session either online worldwide or if you are local to the Gold Coast, Australia I also offer in-home sessions.

Nicole Ivens | Empath Counsellor

 

 

 

When life gives you lemons

When Life Gives You Lemons

When Life Gives You Lemons…

 

 

“When Life Gives You Lemons You Need To Dig Deep”

It is in times like this where you can feel unsupported by the universe and your cosmic team and that they have left you to suffer, when in actual fact they are right by your side, just waiting for you to ask for their help.  As you may or may not be aware your cosmic team needs permission to step in and support you, so ask yourself the question “have I put myself in a position where they can help, assist and support me?”.

A lot of the time we can feel abandoned and unsupported and as the sensitive beings that we are, we can have the mindset of “I can do it myself, I don’t need help” or “I am the helper, I can’t possibly burden another person with my problems”.  So by asking yourself that question, you are opening up your awareness to your part in this situation or any situation where you have felt left behind and unsupported.

Your cosmic team will help you by taking your hand and leading you out of the darkness if you let them, it may look a little something like this:

You may start to notice little signs of light that grab your attention, for example:  When my daughter was diagnosed with Epilepsy five years ago, we spent many days and nights in hospital and what a drab and depressing place that is.  My cosmic team helped shine the light for me by reminding me of the wonderful support of her medical team and the brand new children’s hospital that had been opened not long before her first seizure.

So as you can see they were shining the light by showing me the good within the situation, without that awareness and asking for help, I would of stayed in the darkness of what we were experiencing.

What light is your Cosmic Team bringing into your current situation?


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surrender

Surrender your Stranglehold on the Universe

“All we have is this moment, yesterday is gone and tomorrow is yet to arrive”

 

Surrender

The attempt and effort to control each moment is an exercise in futility, there are way too many forces at play at any given moment to have full control over anything.  As you do make this attempt instead of gaining the outcome you are looking for, you are in actual fact, cutting off the flow from the Universe.

 


Surrendering to each and every moment, releases anxiety and worry, in this moment you can breathe.  You can handle this moment!  Surrendering is letting go of control, relinquishing the idea that all you have is your own power that there is no-one else.

You can handle this moment! 

In a place of control you are cutting off the power of the universe, a stranglehold on your life and then wondering why it’s not working out how you envisioned.  It reminds me of a saying:

“If you love something, let it go and if it returns, it is yours forever”

surrender

Whilst surrendering and letting go is frightening, the immense relief you will feel is more than worth the moment of fear.  Remember as a child you didn’t have to worry how things happened,  you could rely on a bigger power – Your Parents.

It is no different now, there is a bigger infinite power at play – The Universe.  You just need to trust in her, like you trusted in your parents to never lead you astray.

When we are continuously worrying about things, whether it’s about what has been or what has yet to come, it’s like we are really putting a stranglehold on the Universe.  Not allowing it to flow through us because we are strangling it, strangling it with worry, strangling it with anxiety and strangling it with stress.

If we can surrender to the current moment, surrender to right now that is like us just releasing that stranglehold.  It is allowing us to really trust in the Universe, trusting that she knows what we need in each and every moment, trusting that she will provide for us in each and every moment, financially, emotionally, physically and spiritually.

Providing us with everything we need in each and every moment, imagine living from that place, how different would your life look if you did that?  If you just surrendered, surrendered to each moment, not worrying about what has been, not worrying about what is yet to come, just surrender to NOW.

Having unwavering faith and unwavering trust, that everything you need is going to flow to you.  In actual fact what we have been doing by having the stranglehold is not allowing those things to flow to us, we are really putting a kink in it, making it extremely hard for information, guidance and physical items to flow through to us.

Just like when you put a kink in a hose, the water just stops flowing doesn’t it, there is no where for it to go, it certainly can’t flow through to the end of the hose.

surrender

 

All the Universe wants is to flow through you, your source is infinite, so you are infinite.  We are all connected, so if we can allow ourselves to be in the present moment to surrender to that, to lean in to that then things are going to flow with so much ease.  There won’t be that constriction, there won’t be that kink, it is just going to flow very easily.

“Have unwavering faith and unwavering trust, that everything you need is going to flow to you”

Take on the challenge of surrendering to each and every moment, letting go of the past and not worrying about the future.  How much will you surrender to the current moment?

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Ask your angels ep23

Energy of the Week | Ask Your Angels Ep23

ASK YOUR ANGELS ~ EPISODE 23

Energy of the week for 6th – 12th January 2020

Tune in to your Cosmic Team and Ask Your Angels what do I need?
Pick card 1, 2, 3 or 4.

 

Ask Your Angels Ep23

Your Guidance Revealed

Ask Your Angels Ep23

Card 1: Surrender Your Desire to Control People

Your guidance starts at 1:29 in the video below.

An interesting card to start out our guidance this week, the angels are asking you to release the need to try to control other people because in spiritual truth you can’t control anyone else anyway.  As we go along on our spiritual journey, we are all at different stages, some further ahead, some further behind and sometimes if you are further ahead and learned new ways of being you may want to try and help your loved ones and those around you to change their actions and behaviour.

The issue with that is they may not be ready yet, their soul may not be at the stage where it is ready to comprehend and understand your new way of being and changing.  The best teacher is one of pure example and that asks you to lead by example, its taking solace in your own journey, learning what your soul is here to learn and allow others to do the same.  I promise you as you make changes to your behaviour and your way of being, your life will shift and that is when they will sit up and pay attention.

Card 2: Surrender Unhealthy Relationships

Your guidance starts at 4:47 in the video below.

Continuing on from Card #1 its time to surrender relationships that are no longer for you, chasing and trying to control someone into acting in certain ways or showing up for you in ways that you deserve and need.  Something I have talked about before, on our journey here as souls having a human experience there will be people aka other souls that are on your journey for the long haul and others for just a short time.

When a relationship is causing you more harm than good, it is a big sign, red flag that your time together is up, you have served them and in turn they have served you, so it is time to go your separate ways.

As you release those that are no longer for you, it opens up space for new people, souls that you are more aligned with and that are aligned with you to enter your life.  The longer you hold on to those that are no longer for you, the more space they take up and the less room you have to invite the new people and souls that are here to serve you and for you to serve them within their spiritual journey.

Card 3: Surrender to Play

Your guidance starts at 7:27 in the video below.

Its time to lighten up your energy with play, letting go of all your responsibilities just for a moment, enough time to bring that beautiful smile back to your face.  Now I know during trying times this can feel almost impossible, but I can tell you through personal experience that these are the times that this is paramount to both your healing and continued coping.  For my husband and I when we were going through hard times with our children’s medical crisis, we made sure we took some time to smile and laugh, some days just for a minute, others longer.

The importance was that we made it a priority, to take a break from the difficulties that was our life at that time.  Each and every person deserves some time out, time out to release, time out to relax and time out to laugh.

As they say laughter is the best medicine, do what makes you smile even just for a moment.  Maybe that’s a walk outside, hanging out with your pets, or watching a funny show on TV.   As you do this it is going to lighten up your energy and make room for your beautiful guidance to come through with the answers and solutions you have been searching for.

Card 4: Surrender Resentments

Your guidance starts at 10:00 in the video below.

“Holding onto resentments only poisons YOU”…..read that again………”Holding onto resentments only poisons YOU”.  The day Nelson Mandela was leaving jail he said “As I walked out the door toward the gate that would lead to my freedom, I knew if I didn’t leave my bitterness and hatred behind, I’d still be in prison”.

This is a great example of what holding onto anger and resentments can do to you, it is like you are inside prison of your own making.  Yes you have every right to be angry when someone has wronged you and caused you immense pain, but what you don’t want to be doing is allowing them to continue to hurt you with every thought that comes within your own imprisonment.

Whilst forgiving is one of the hardest things to do, especially when its towards someone who either hasn’t apologised and probably never will or don’t see anything wrong with their behaviour, ITS NOT ABOUT THEM!  This is about you, lightening up your energy, releasing the pain, anger and resentment you are holding and carrying each and every day.  It is too HEAVY, you deserve to feel free, to let them go and release yourself from this prison of anger and resentment.

 

Our story this week is all about lightening up your energy, whether you chose 1, 2, 3 or 4 the angels are guiding you to release what is too heavy, what is weighing you down and causing your personal energy field to feel heavy and dense.  Just like a balloon tethered to the ground, it can’t fly, it can’t be free, its the same for you, free yourself by lightening up your energy field. 

 

You can also watch my Video to hear more about each card and the guidance I provided ~ click below

I would love to hear how the guidance resonates for you right now, comment right here on the blog.

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Nicole Ivens | Gold Coast Counsellor

 


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Ask your Angels Ep21

Energy of the Week ~ Ask Your Angels Ep21

ASK YOUR ANGELS ~ EPISODE 21

Energy of the week for 23rd-29th December 2019

Tune in to your Cosmic Team and Ask Your Angels what do I need?
Pick card 1, 2, 3 or 4.

 

Ask Your Angels Ep21

Your Guidance Revealed

Ask Your Angels Ep21

Card 1:

Your guidance starts at 1:44 in the video below.

SELF-RESPECT – A very fitting card for this time and really following on from last week where I was talking about managing expectations, and this week it is all about self-respect and not putting up with bad behaviour.  Not allowing people to treat you in ways that is not okay and doesn’t sit well with you, letting people know that their behaviour is not okay, in a kind and loving way of course.

Just because certain people have known you for a long time, maybe since you were born and they have always acted in this way, doesn’t mean you have to continue to endure it.  As we grow and go along on our spiritual journey, we do get to a point where we will no longer put up with and accept certain behaviours.

As your self-esteem and self-confidence grows and you start to believe in yourself more, you will start to see people in a different light and what you used to accept and deal with, will no longer be okay.  Time to have those conversations, letting those people know that the way in which they interact with you, is no longer acceptable and you are respectfully asking them to shift and adjust their behaviour.

Embracing your new improved self-respect and start showing that to the world, people will start to notice and slowly their behaviour will adjust because they will see how you are treating yourself and what you will and will no longer accept from them.

Card 2:

Your guidance starts at 3:56 in the video below.

MOTHER – It doesn’t matter if your mum is passed or still with you here on the Earthly Plane, the guidance remains the same.  It is about starting to see your mum in a different light, the angels are bringing through the word “Fragile” and showing me an image of a porcelain doll and we all know how fragile they are.  When you can look at your mum through that lens, the experiences, situations and behaviours you have had with your mum will start to look different, you will have a much deeper understanding of the Why!

The big revelation from childhood is when the fog lifts and we start to see our mother as a person, with her own struggles, feelings and emotions, she isn’t just mum anymore.  As you grow and possibly become a mother yourself you start to see her differently and even if there are times where you may have felt pain in your relationship with her, you can now start to see why she may have acted in that way.  Understanding that at the time she was acting through her own lens, of what she had experienced in the past, possibly with her mum and it continues up the ancestral line.  This can stop with you,  you can start the healing process, not just for you, but for her and for her mum and then down the line to your children or children to come.

This is very much about you, healing that pain you have been carrying, whether she is still here or passed, pain doesn’t end with death and pain is heavy, its time to let that go, heal and be able to move forward into our new decade without the weight, that was never yours to carry in the first place.

Card 3:

Your guidance starts at 6:34 in the video below.

FEMININE – The landscape for us as women is really starting to shift, a lot more women are starting to step forward and no longer allowing certain behaviours and imbalances within our world.  You are receiving this card because now its your turn, its time for you to deeply connect to your feminine energy and know that it is okay, safe even for you to embrace your very powerful feminine energy.

For generations there has been a real imbalance between masculine and feminine energy and its not that we want to flip it completely, we don’t want to go from an imbalance of the masculine being stronger and the feminine weaker to feminine becoming stronger and the masculine weaker, we want a balance.

This isn’t about male vs female, this is a balance of energy within each and every person whether male or female.  We all have masculine and feminine energy within us and its time for a balance.  Continuing on from card #2 healing the relationship with our mums is the start, as it then allows you to really step into and shine your strong, powerful feminine energy.

Feminine energy is very powerful and strong if you allow it to be, allowing it to come to the surface and this really is why I do the work that I do.  Supporting you as an Empath and Sensitive Soul to really just be who you are, without feeling the need to hide your sensitivity aka your feminine energy.   That is your guidance this week, to start to allow her to shine through, even just a little bit.

Card 4:

Your guidance starts at 9:11 in the video below.

GIVING & RECEIVING – What a perfect card to round up our guidance this week and at this time of year, it is a traditional time of giving and receiving isn’t it.  Giving and receiving gifts, love and time, but its about so much more that just at Christmas time, this is about the affect across all areas of your life.

As Empaths and Sensitive Souls we are so good at giving, as soon as we see someone in need, we are in there offering our help and compassionate heart, but receiving now that is another whole story, isn’t it?  We are not so good at the receiving or asking for help, we tend to shy away from that, feeling that we are the helpers, so we couldn’t possibly ask for help from another soul.

What you may not realise is that by having an imbalance between giving and receiving, you are essentially turning off the tap to abundance and prosperity across all areas of your life.  A simple act of saying no when someone offers to buy you a coffee, is turning off that tap, stopping the flow of all that you deserve in your life.

You know for you to continue to share your beautiful love with all those around you, you need to be filled up too, we need that tap of abundance, prosperity and guidance to flow.

Think about when was the last time you asked for help and actually accepted the help of another, check out the video below where I talk to you about a big reason you need to be finding a balance between giving and receiving and it is actually providing a service to others.

 

What a lovely nurturing story we have this week from Mother Mary – Queen of Angels, she is really guiding us to look at how it is we are treating ourselves and starting to heal the experiences we have had with our mothers as that leads into just how we are showing up with our feminine energy.

 

You can also watch my Video to hear more about each card and the guidance I provided ~ click below

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Nicole Ivens | Gold Coast Counsellor

 


I offer Online Intuitive Readings to provide you with more personal and detailed guidance.  You can learn more and book your Intuitive Reading Here.

Ask Your Angels EP20

Energy of the Week ~ Ask Your Angels Ep20

ASK YOUR ANGELS ~ EPISODE 20

Energy of the week for 16th-22nd December 2019

Tune in to your Cosmic Team and Ask Your Angels what do I need?
Pick card 1, 2, 3 or 4.

 

Ask Your Angels Ep20

Your Guidance Revealed

Ask Your Angels Ep20

Card 1:

Your guidance starts at 1:25 in the video below.

RELATIONSHIP HARMONY – A wonderful card to receive right before the Christmas Period, what could be better than feeling the love and peace that comes when each and every person has an open heart.  This is the gift the Angels are giving you, what they are asking from you is that you manage your expectations during this time, Christmas is usually a time where we come together with people we don’t necessarily see all that much throughout the year and this can cause friction and tension sometimes.  Coming into it with an open heart and lowering your expectations allows you to the enter the space with a lightness and with that comes a more joyful experience, as you aren’t expecting anything from anyone and with that comes harmony and beautiful surprises and miracles bestowed upon you.

In the video below I share more about this concept and process and give you some insight on what will ensure your experience is one of joy and love.

Card 2:

Your guidance starts at 4:05 in the video below

ANGEL THERAPY – Fancy that another week of our guidance following on like a beautiful story, the angels are blessing you with open hearts all around and now Archangel Raphael is coming in and showering you with his beautiful healing energy and asking you to hand anything over to him, you don’t have to do it alone.  As I mentioned in Card 1 Christmas can be a time of tension and stress and we can sometimes feel we have to do it alone, but NO your angels are there to support you and pave the way for you to have a beautiful relaxing experience if you allow them to help you.

In the video below I talk about how Christmas is known as a time of coming together, celebrating and forgiveness but it can also be a time of reflection, what has the past being about, what has it taught you?  In my view and the angels are guiding as well its not the best time to be trying to mend deep hurt with other people, because tensions can be running high, alcohol flowing and expectations are also high.

Card 3:

Your guidance starts at 6:58 in the video below

YOU ARE SAFE – What is better than that, to know you are safe.  Our beautiful strong Archangel Michael is with you, ready to cut through any negative energy that you may pick up with his infamous sword.  He is wanting you to know that he has your back!  There may be situations you find yourself in over the holidays that maybe are not of your choosing and not something you may know how to necessarily cope with, this is where he is going to come in and support you, if you allow him to.

Ask for his strength and courage to help you through times that may see you surrounded with people that are not necessarily on your vibration level, yes family are not always understanding or respectful of our difference and our growth and that can be challenging.  So ask Archangel Michael to be with you and surround you in his beautiful purple light and to cut any cords with people that you no longer want your energy attached to, now this doesn’t mean that you don’t love them or even want to sever all communication, it is just cutting the energetic cord, so your energy stays protected.

Card 4:

Your guidance starts at 11:43 in the video below

ALL IS WELL – What a beautiful way to end our story this week and also as an individual message for you, ALL IS WELL!  Isn’t that what we all want to just know that everything is going to be okay.  What the angels are guiding is if you can follow their guidance during this time, and well of course always, then all will be well.  They are also guiding there are going to be times where you need to let things play out, even if it doesn’t feel good and even downright painful sometimes, you just need to let it be.  Now I know as empaths and sensitive souls this isn’t easy for us, because we are so compassionate and always wanting to help and serve others.  But sometimes we just need to let things be and see where they go, not interfering, just going with the flow and only acting from a place of alignment and when you feel guided to step in.

Now we all know how easily we can be triggered by family, boy are they good at pressing our buttons, but it is your job to just stand back and allow it to just flow over you like water off a ducks back.  No reacting, just observing and removing yourself from the situation if need be.   As you do that you will soon see that ALL IS WELL.

 

What a beautiful story this week, an empowering one I feel, knowing that you are in control, you can lower those expectations and go into each day and each event with an energy of lightness and relaxation.  Not concerned with things going perfectly, but just spending time with people you love and knowing you have the power, strength and healing of the Archangels right by your side. 

 

You can also watch my Video to hear more about each card and the guidance I provided ~ click below

I would love to hear how the guidance resonates for you right now, comment right here on the blog.

You can also subscribe to my YouTube Channel here….so you get notified each time I share new content.


 

Nicole Ivens | Gold Coast Counsellor

 


I offer Online Intuitive Readings to provide you with more personal and detailed guidance.  You can learn more and book your Intuitive Reading Here.

Energy of the Week ~ Ask Your Angels Episode 13

ASK YOUR ANGELS ~ EPISODE 13

Energy of the week for 28th October – 3rd November 2019

Tune in to your Cosmic Team and Ask Your Angels what do I need?
Pick card 1, 2, 3 or 4.

Energy of the Week - Ask your Angels Episode 13

 

Your Guidance Revealed

Energy of the Week - Ask Your Angels Episode 13

Card 1:

Your guidance starts at 1:50 in the video below.

Surrender to Setting Limits – As sensitive souls and empaths boundaries are one of the most important things you can do to protect your energy, and also one of the hardest things you will ever have to do.  As an empath and sensitive soul it is our purpose to help others, so having to set boundaries can be both hard and scary at the same time, thoughts of who will I be without being there for everyone all of the time and what will people think are sure to bubble to the surface.

What I would like you to think about is the times where you feel really energised and what that means for the energy you are putting out into the world and then when you are depleted what energy is being received by the world.  Another way to consider enforcing boundaries is how you view others that have boundaries, what do you think about them?  I am sure it isn’t anything bad, if anything you probably envy their ability to do that.

With all that in mind, how do you feel now about placing some boundaries to protect your beautiful sensitive energy?  Let me know in the comments below, I would love to hear your experience and I can then offer you some support in putting your boundaries in place guilt free.

 

Card 2:

Your guidance starts at 3:34 in the video below

Surrender the Habit of People Pleasing – This is a habit that many sensitive souls aka helpers and nurturers tend to have, we love to be able to help others and in that we can get stuck in the habit of doing exactly what they want to make them happy.  The problem with that is it can cause others to never actually be able to get to know us, because all we are ever doing is what they want and it really leaves no room for your beautiful unique light and gifts to shine.

Now people pleasing isn’t something you just stop doing, it is more of a recovery, “Hi I’m Nicole and I’m a recovering People Pleaser”.  Little by little you can adjust your behaviour, not doing things for people just to please them, not holding back when you know there are either words or actions that would really help this person on a deeper level.  Trust me as you start to do this, what you feel and experience will be so much more and benefit you so much more on a soul level.

You will soon notice the adjustment of others behaviour towards you as well, they will be coming to you because they know you can really help them on such a deep growth level as opposed to “oh she will just do this for me”.

How does starting to reduce your habit of people pleasing, are you ready to join me in recovery as a people pleaser?  Comment below and let me know what your experience is and how you feel about starting to make changes?  I can then support you with ways to help in your recovery.

Card 3:

Your guidance starts at 5:32 in the video below

Surrender Fear – Fear is something we all have at one time or another and about different things, sometimes fear can be a good thing keeping you safe in times of perceived danger.  The issue comes when that perceived fear is just that, not actual danger, but something due to past experiences in your life making your primitive brain feel like you are in danger.  This is when your body will react within 3 secs of the perceived danger putting you into fight, flight or freeze mode, your conscious mind always takes a little longer to click to what is happening and then confusion sets in, to what is actually happening.

It can be very easy to just allow fear to be in the drivers seat, follow its lead and stop whatever you were attempting to do that your primitive brain felt was a danger.  Whilst that’s all fine and good, its really sucks when it starts to really affect your life on a deeper level, stopping you from really living your destined life and your angels feel sad when they see fear holding you back as they can see what is possible for you and your potential, they are asking you to allow them to help you in times of fear, call them in and ask them to help you to feel calmer and to understand the purpose of your fear mind.

Let me know by commenting below how fear is showing up in your life and then I can provide you with extra support on ways to combat your fear and connect in with the power of your angels.

Card 4:

Your guidance starts at 7:16 in the video below

Surrender Stress – Similar to card #3 stress is something else we all deal with and can also be helpful in times of getting you motivated and moving on a task, idea or your life purpose.  It is when you are experiencing chronic stress that its time to release it and find new and more helpful ways to cope with what you are experiencing in your life.  From personal experience I know what chronic stress can do to your body, I was under chronic stress for about 3 years after the diagnosis of my daughter with epilepsy and it had really been taking a toll on my body causing me to have injuries and also adrenal fatigue.

So I can tell you how important it is for you to surrender stress, to find other ways to ensure no matter what is happening you are not allowing the experience or circumstances to leave you in a place of stress 24/7.  Again like card #3 your angels are asking you to call on them, bring them in when you need support to cope with a difficult situation or experience, they love to be able to help you and can bring you such peace.

Let me know by commenting below how you deal with stress in your life and I can provide extra support and teach you new ways you may not of thought of or known about to help you in reducing your stress.

 

You can also watch my Video to hear more about each card and the guidance I provided ~ click below

I would love to hear how the guidance resonates for you right now, comment right here on the blog.

You can also subscribe to my YouTube Channel here….so you get notified each time I share new content.

Nicole Ivens | EFT Gold Coast

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